Today's Love & Sex Guilty Pleasure

By Roselyn Sebastian Sleeping with your boss is one of the ultimate temptations, but can also end in disaster if you indulge. Is there a way to jump into bed and actually advance your career without ruining your personal life? We understand that not at all affairs are created equal, things happen. But if you can take a breath and think on it, consider the following things. Will It Advance Your Career? There’s nothing worse than getting passed over for a promotion. But the solution to that problem is usually not getting between the sheets. If you do decide that’s what you’re going... CONTINUE READING 5


Real Sex

Imagine, once upon a time guys were cautious about buying porn. It was way too embarrassing for most. But now porn’s mainstream, and it has, for a long time, been teaching men - and us - about what sex "should" be like - the way it should look, the way it should sound, the way it should... CONTINUE READING 6

Too afraid to break up

As a twenty-something New Yorker, I've had my fair share of failed flings, but really, who hasn't? Even though these past affairs of the heart weren't ideal, I knew when it was time to pull the plug and become the dumper before I became the dumped. Ironically, the worst relationship I’ve ever had, I just couldn't leave. For three dysFUNKtional... CONTINUE READING 5

Taking Sex to the Back Door

It's a private subject, but one that we've nevertheless heard our girlfriends talking about. That's why we wanted to get the conversation started, and hear from someone who's actually familiar with the territory. One Shecky's reader shared her personal experience of taking sex to the back door. Whether your boyfriend's ever expressed interest, or you've been curious enough to want... CONTINUE READING 7


Somebody who was probably Candace Bushnell once said it’s not how big it is, it’s how you use it. But if you’ve ever gone from dating a well-endowed dude to a guy with a much smaller package, you might be quick to dash that idea. You know in this case, it isn’t always true. So what... CONTINUE READING 175


If you’ve ever seen a Playboy magazine from the 1970s, you’ve seen how body hair on women has changed over the decades. But with all the varied preferences today, how do you know how you're supposed to look...down there? It's hairy business, literally, and with so many contradictions - in the media, in our love life - we're feeling pretty bushwhacked. Whether... CONTINUE READING 23

Why Hasn't He Popped the Question?

"Should" your boyfriend pop the question after dating you for 5 years (or two, or whatever) depends entirely on you - the individual couple. But at some point, you start to feel a bit curious yourself- Should I be worried he hasn't asked? At what point should we either do this thing or split? No girl really wants to put pressure... CONTINUE READING 4

The Best Relationship Advice

Every time we're in a couple, relationship advice comes at us like a wild-eyed, drunken old grandfather whom everyone is fond of, but no one's ever quite prepared for. That is to say, it doesn't always show up announced, and we don't always ask for it. So we got curious: what's the best relationship advice of all time? Cuz how's a... CONTINUE READING 12

Is Social Media Ruining Your Relationship

Everything great about the internet is terrible for relationships. Why? Relationships involve real people who need your attention in real time. Are you guilty of letting social media occasionally stand in for a real relationship? Here are the main social media outlets that are doing destructive things to our personal lives. 1. Texting How it's messing things up: Text messages are the... CONTINUE READING 3

He Totally Doesn't Love These Moves

Ladies. There are so many things guys do wrong in bed. But how often do we check ourselves? Here's a list of general (mis)understandings we have about what guys want, according to a few dudes who were eager to share with us. 1. Perfume and Deodorant Men are much more "animal" than women when it comes to hygiene. While we take extra... CONTINUE READING 9

How to Make Him Happy

Jenn Flaa, author of The Happiness Handbook, knows a thing or two about joy. She went from being a chubby, miserable divorcee who owned a high tech company that was barely hanging on, to a successful CEO and lead singer in a rock band. When it comes to happiness, she says, making your man happy, your boss happy, and... CONTINUE READING 2