Today's Love & Sex Guilty Pleasure

by Ayesha Richardson Bring on the new beginnings!  Whether its foreplay, date nights, teasing, shower sex, or oral sex these methods can prove vital to a lasting relationship. Foreplay Foreplay is the best way to get closer when you have your menstruation cycle.  A little extra touching and kissing can bring your relationship to a whole new level.  Of course, this time will allow you and your partner to connect on a non-sexual level. Dating Time Make this time the best time to go on as many dates as you like.  Going on dates and not having sex with your partner during your menstruation cycle allows the two of you to practice a more romantic side of... CONTINUE READING 9



I’ve never been one to roll in the sheets before I even know a guy's middle name, but that doesn’t mean a romp in the sack after a first date is out of the question. Many times, the sexual chemistry is instant, and after a few drinks and a dinner, it's all you can do to keep your... CONTINUE READING 14

Are you Cool with Dating a Bi Guy?

A couple weeks ago, we discussed whether or not men are actually comfortable dating a bi girl. But if the roles were reversed, and you were dating a bi guy, would things be different? Let’s take a closer look at where exactly our misconceptions may stem from, and what micro-aggressive ideologies to put aside when dating a bi guy. 1. Be... CONTINUE READING 7

Meditation Sex Life

By now you’ve heard the benefits of exercising regularly and following a healthy diet for your sex life, but can meditation also give you a boost in bed? According to George Moufarrej, author of Sexual Euphoria, meditation helps relieve anxiety, relaxes the muscles in the body, and increases your sexual appetite. “I recommend that couples meditate in the same room... CONTINUE READING 4

Dating a man with kids

It happens. Some of us have kids with someone we can’t just make it work with. And sometimes, we enter relationships in which our partner has kids of his own. While some people may frown upon it or have general hesitations, some of us are willing to make it work. Here are some things to consider when dating a fella... CONTINUE READING 6

Real Sex

Imagine, once upon a time guys were cautious about buying porn. It was way too embarrassing for most. But now porn’s mainstream, and it has, for a long time, been teaching men - and us - about what sex "should" be like - the way it should look, the way it should sound, the way it should... CONTINUE READING 6

Too afraid to break up

As a twenty-something New Yorker, I've had my fair share of failed flings, but really, who hasn't? Even though these past affairs of the heart weren't ideal, I knew when it was time to pull the plug and become the dumper before I became the dumped. Ironically, the worst relationship I’ve ever had, I just couldn't leave. For three dysFUNKtional... CONTINUE READING 5

Taking Sex to the Back Door

It's a private subject, but one that we've nevertheless heard our girlfriends talking about. That's why we wanted to get the conversation started, and hear from someone who's actually familiar with the territory. One Shecky's reader shared her personal experience of taking sex to the back door. Whether your boyfriend's ever expressed interest, or you've been curious enough to want... CONTINUE READING 7


Somebody who was probably Candace Bushnell once said it’s not how big it is, it’s how you use it. But if you’ve ever gone from dating a well-endowed dude to a guy with a much smaller package, you might be quick to dash that idea. You know in this case, it isn’t always true. So what... CONTINUE READING 193


If you’ve ever seen a Playboy magazine from the 1970s, you’ve seen how body hair on women has changed over the decades. But with all the varied preferences today, how do you know how you're supposed to look...down there? It's hairy business, literally, and with so many contradictions - in the media, in our love life - we're feeling pretty bushwhacked. Whether... CONTINUE READING 23

Why Hasn't He Popped the Question?

"Should" your boyfriend pop the question after dating you for 5 years (or two, or whatever) depends entirely on you - the individual couple. But at some point, you start to feel a bit curious yourself- Should I be worried he hasn't asked? At what point should we either do this thing or split? No girl really wants to put pressure... CONTINUE READING 4