How To Keep a Long Distance Relationship Hot
Aside from FWB (Friends with Benefits), the LDR (Long Distance Relationship) is the courtship that always seems to get us tripped up ladies and gents. The romance between Drew Barrymore and Justin Long in Going the Distance is a perfect example of the ups and downs of keeping the spark alive, through telephone wires and ethernet cords. Whether you’re moving back home after graduation, snatching up a new job in a new city or simply traveling for the summer, here are some tips for keeping your long-distance relationship alive through it all!
-Kelly Craig
Gotta Have Trust
First things first: no relationship can last without trust. Plain and simple. Even if you’re in the same time zone and zip code, if you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything. You and your partner may be perfectly matched while you’re together, but if you’re constantly worrying about who they’re with and what they’re doing, the relationship will grow as toxic as LA’s air.
Entering a LDR is not always signing a relationship death sentence. I will admit it does get harder and harder as it continues, and both partners usually head into a LDR with too much confidence and not enough endurance (kind of like me with running!), but the time physically apart from your partner does not always end in disaster, as many of our friends make it seem. Trust is one huge factor for keeping your relationship going, no matter the distance!
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Post a CommentIn LDR right now, and agree trust is the most important thing, planning the time together is second. It’s way easier when u know exactly when u see him next. Meeting my guy in 9 days and so so excited about it (ater nor seeing hime a little less than 2 months). For now it’s been goign great, we communicate daily via txts and emails, and skype every now and then, mostly on the weekends).
I would add staying busy and having friends really helps too. It shouldn’t be only about waiting and communicating, u need to have life other than virtual dating with your guy. This way u’ll have easier time surviving the distance and staying an interesting and happy person he loves
My on and off again guy just relocated to Florida for a few month because of his job. Its difficult but we are finding creative ways to keep it hot between us. When it gets too bad, one of us makes the drive to see each other!
I have been in a long distance relationship going on five months now. The suggestions listed above definitely help keep the romance alive when me and my man are away from each other, but I still get those moments where being in this can be unbearable. I never thought I’d ever be a part of an LDR, but after meeting him, I knew we’d do anything for each other, despite the distance. Sexting and skyping is a big part of my daily life. I know he really enjoys it, and I get a kick out of being naughty. The best part of being in an LDR though,is that once the weekend comes, all the anticipation and waiting comes to an end; the sex always feels fresh, brand new, and exciting. We never go stale. I’m not saying I want to be away from him, but its always easier when I know I’ll have his arms around me and lots of alone time to look forward to after having the patience to wait for him, because he is worth it.
There is this saying that distance makes the heart grow fonder. I tried the long distance thing before and it was great for me, but the guy on the other hand was a different story. You would have to be really in loved and committed to take on a long distance relationship.
Now that we have SKYPE and OVoo, it makes it a little bit better to cope with long distance relationships. Another good thing to keep the long distance relationship going is going old fashion and mailing letters back and forth to each other instead of sending text messages and emails often its not helping the postal employee to its job. Letters expresses how you feel and allows you to be creative, like spraying the perfume and sealing it with a lipstick kiss.
I used to always be a huge skeptic of LDRs unless the couple had short term AND long term plans to be together and both were ok with it. However, I’ve found myself falling for and now seriously dating a guy who is a marine engineer on a ship and lives on it 24/7 as they travel around. We have been able to see each other for semi-long weekends every three weeks, which has been really great, and even more frequent than other long-distance couples. However, he don’t know when his time on the ship will be finished, but I’m holding on because this is definitely something worth waiting for. Basically I’m just trying to say, you never know when you’ll find yourself doing things you never though you’d do just for the person you love! All those forms of communication mentioned above are key, and definitely make it much more possible to live happily in LDRs in this age of technology
I have had a long distance marriage for 6 years.It was great until the trust stopped.
never had one–i don’t think it would’ve gone well
never been in one of those
nah
Great advice!, Trust IS the solid foundation upon which a good relationship builds. The absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Interesting….. Communication & trust is proving to be standard in this type of relationship. I agree with everything said on this one
good advice though.
ugh hated ldr. too old for that now.