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QUESTION:

Look at Prince William and Kate. What makes a guy go back a second time and, in their case, even get married?

ANSWERS:

Mr. Noncommittal SEE BIO NOW>

The sex…. If the sex was good, it’s hard to stay away. Sometimes after a bit of time away you realize that you had a little more in common than good sex, too. But sometimes you realize all you had was…good sex.

So, Kate and William are the exception, not the rule. But remember, everyone loves a sequel !

Mr. Young and in Love SEE BIO NOW>

It’s always tough to speculate on what’s going on in other people’s lives, particularly public lives where you’re not actually seeing their “life,” you’re seeing what a specialist team of image-control people want their clients’ “lives” to be perceived as.

But I’d imagine it’s just a case of wanting different things at different times in their lives. It’s not the 1920s anymore, and people don’t get married when they’re 20. But if you’re 20 and happen to meet the perfect girl that you WOULD want to marry later down the track, what’s a young lad to do? You probably want to marry her SOMEDAY, but at the same time you still want to have a bit of fun while you’re young.

So, you do what the Prince did—have a bit of fun, then go back to the one you want to marry later on. And it’s not just a guy thing. I know plenty of girls who have gone back to “the one” once they were ready to get married.

Mr. Loves Boys Too SEE BIO NOW>

Well, a great body doesn’t hurt! There are a couple of reasons to go back and even make a larger commitment. First, there is the “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone” case. Maybe some time apart is just what was needed to appreciate what was there. Maybe taking a look around and test driving a few other vehicles makes guys realize just what they had.

Second, there is the pressure-from-above case. Perhaps someone like your grandmother, who just happens to be the queen, calls you up and says something like, “If you ever want the throne, marry this girl!”

Finally, there is the “I wonder what THAT person is doing and, why did I ever leave them anyway?!” case.  This happens a lot when the timing just isn’t quite right for a long-term commitment. Then, your planets align and you call someone up and ask them, “Hey, what are you doing?” Whatever the reason…as long as it works, go for it!

Mr. Loverboy Rocker SEE BIO NOW>

To go back to someone often requires digging back into the past, and into emotions you’ve already moved on from. It can be dangerous. The question becomes: Why did you break up with the person in the first place? I don’t believe people’s personalities change much. If you’re hoping for yourself or the other to change, then you may be asking for too much.

But, if the relationship couldn’t continue for other circumstantial reasons, such as one leaving for college or distance, then there is no reason not to try again. Really it comes down to the gut instinct for me. There are girls I’ve split apart from due to distance, jobs, school, etc., who I wonder about all the time. Our personalities meshed well, and we would have never broken up if our lives weren’t torn in different directions. If I found myself single again and one of these women crossed my life’s path, I would not hesitate to go for round two.

GIRL TALK TIME: What do you think? Have you ever gone for round two with an ex? Did it work?

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