4 Ways to Sabotage a Relationship
Have you ever felt the relationship you were in was too good to be true? How about the feeling that you didn’t deserve all of this happy love? And then, you started over-thinking, second-guessing and building the fear factor that eventually ate away at your relationship? If you answered yes to the questions above, you might be a relationship saboteur.
A relationship saboteur is someone who feels they are not worthy of healthy, positive, passionate, ooey-gooey love. That feeling ultimately, even if subconsciously, makes you do everything possible to interfere with relationship success.
If this sounds like you, it’s time to come face-to-face with FOUR major relationship-sabotagers that might be preventing you from finding (and keeping) the love you SO deserve.
#1 – Trust issues
It’s pretty well known that a relationship without trust will not be a long-lasting one. If you’re constantly suspicious of everything your partner says and does (can we say digging through his wallet/email/phone for anything to prove that he is deceiving you?!), you have trust issues. Lack of trust creates a wedge between you and your partner.
Most of the time, such mistrust has everything to do with you and nothing to do with your mate. It is your past experiences that you have not worked through that trigger you to wreck anything good that comes your way. Stop it. NOW!
-Tristan Coopersmith & Janis Gaudelli, Founders of The BreakUP Club
The BreakUP Club is a female-owned and operated organization dedicated to female empowerment and helping women feel, heal and seal the hurt of heartbreak. The organization is headquartered in Los Angeles, CA and offers local workshops, national online workshops, private one-on-one sessions and teleseminars. For more information, visit break-upclub.com.
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Post a Commenttrust issues ruined my last serious relationship. he would talk about ex’s and other girls, and i just couldnt trust him when i wasnt with him
Trust is the most important element you can have in a relationship. Communication improve trust and understanding a person self work. When a person does not be open and communicate their needs. The closed line of communication built up and comes out as distrust for that person because of the silent. I think Trust is a quality that grows with time.
control and trust issues are the top killers for me.
all true
working to much , No outside time together , no sex , not keeping in touch
trust issues can ruin every relationship!
interesting article for sure
#3 – yea I had a boyfriend who was over controlling – he broke our table when I came home a little late – he was a little psycho – glad he’s out of my life
I am glad you are no longer in that relationship. Love yourself more. Life is too short. Be glad it was the table that day and not you.
#2 – the fear of committment sometimes I think it’s people thinking they can find something better
#1 – sometimes it is the man that is untrustworthy
I hate control freaks
When will we learn we can not control people.
couldn’t have said it any better
interesting article.
control is an issue my bf and i both discuss all the time..we are not big on depriving each other from personal time with other friends but its life and there are some situations that might be difficult to deal with…communication is key when these things come up
Communication is definitely key!
ive been with my bf for 3 years now and he travels a lot for work if i didn’t trust him we would not have lasted as much as we have…
Control is a big issue in any relationship and I believe a spouse or partner try to control his or her better half because they are weak themselves and they are very touchy about it so they try to control others.
Trust and insecurity issues are big ones, this is a great starting point to look at to see where you fit if at all. Thanks….
the trust issue is a deal breaker