“So, I really got to know this new boyfriend I’m with before sleeping with him.
Come to find out that he has a really small penis!
The sex is BAD, but I still really like him.
Is there any way to remedy this situation without seriously offending him?”
Mr. Loverboy Rocker SEE BIO NOW>
That’s a tough one. The sex needs to be good, obviously, for the relationship to work, but how do you not offend him? I think it’s going to take time and an element of trust. Once you’re in love, the penis size shouldn’t matter, but can you fall in love with the nagging thought of having to sleep with an insufficient penis for however long the relationship lasts? Unfortunately, it might not last unless something changes!
I’m sure he knows he has a small penis and is probably insecure about it. Maybe he will bring up the conversation or act on his own accord to remedy the situation. That, however, seems highly unlikely. Once there’s a greater level of trust, talk openly about how to improve your sex life. Maybe a first step is to introduce toys, vibrators and other fun gadgets. With more open conversation and experimentation, your level of intimacy may develop so that you feel comfortable bringing up the idea of trying penis-growth pills. I hear they are natural and expand the flow of blood to the penis without any harmful side effects. Maybe you should give that a try! It may salvage your mediocre sex life.
Mr. Young and in Love SEE BIO NOW>
Well, that’s awkward…. Now I could go all preachy and say “But as long as you love each other, that’s ultimately all that matters, blah, blah, blah,” but that’s just not true—sex is an important part of every relationship, and if it’s no good, then it causes problems.
However for most new couples, the first few times are never that great—you’ve gotta keep at it for a while to work out what each person likes, doesn’t like, is completely freaked out by, etc. Don’t be afraid to give him tips—telling him to push harder here, go faster there—which will hopefully make it better for you.
And if the sex is STILL really bad, then there are always other ways for him to help you out, like oral, toys, etc. Just frame it in a way that won’t seem too offensive—”How about we spice things up a little” sounds way hotter than “Your wang isn’t working for me.” If none of that works, then I guess it’s up to you to decide if bad sex is a fair price for a good guy.
Mr. Loves Boys Too SEE BIO NOW>
Wow, so much for—“It isn’t the size of the ship, but the motion of the ocean” and “Great things come in small packages”…. Let’s face it, SIZE DOES MATTER! There is nothing worse than peeling the boxer-briefs off your Giant Jack to find a small beanstalk. But, it’s likely he’s well aware that he isn’t endowed like Secretariat (of course if he could earn as much, maybe size wouldn’t matter), so bringing up the topic won’t be a surprise.
Sex with whomever you are starting off with is a matter of finding out what the other person needs/wants, and making sure that they are getting it in somewhat creative ways and vice versa. Your approach doesn’t need to be, “You’re too small to satisfy” but more like, “Why don’t we try xxxxxx,” where xxxxxx is your favorite toy, alternate sexual position, oral sex, some crazy thing that people with undersized “parts” do (to which, of course, I’m not privy, for obvious reasons). It sounds like you’ve got yourself a great catch, even if he is a small fish. Good luck and have fun making it all work out!
Mr. Noncommittal SEE BIO NOW>
This is a tough one. Sex is too big a piece of the equation to look past it. I’ve heard about this problem from a few of my female friends and ultimately they just say, “If they don’t measure up, it’s just not gonna happen.” As much as we like to think we can get beyond bad sex, small units, flabby butts, droopy boobs or other things that hinder the sexual experience, we just can’t—we are simple animals that need to be satisfied physically and, sometimes, intellectually.
A relationship is supposed to start hot and heavy. That can’t happen if your boyfriend’s unit is so small that it can get trapped in his zipper in a heated moment. But if you can look past it, more power to ya.
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