Shecky’s

When you hear someone talking about “Finding the One,” odds are that you think about love. Finding a person with whom to build a happy and harmonious life together, complete with romance, marriage (or not), children and holding hands, while you stroll into the sunset of life. Most of us have been, at one point in our lives, on a quest to find our One soulmate.

But guess what? That is just The One when it comes to a life partner. The One exists in every other facet of your life, too. But odds are that you spend a lot less time thinking about your other Ones—and it’s time to!

I was recently reminded about this when I moved into my new Manhattan apartment. Well, let me tell you, folks, this apartment is my One apartment—at least, for the current chapter of my life. I knew it the minute I walked into the apartment. Going into the viewing, I didn’t have a crystal-clear sense of what I was looking for, but when I saw my apartment, it just felt right and I knew.

Take a minute and survey your life. Think about:

your job

your body

your friends

your pastimes

your home

your partner

how you spend your time

Are they The One? The One body you want to be living in? The One set of friends that fulfill you and make your heart happy?

I am not talking about making a list of the pros and cons. I could do that with my apartment, too. Pros: the view, the layout, the luxury, the conveniences, the location, the atmosphere, the staff. Cons: the management. But finding The One is more than the sum of the items on that list. It’s a full-on spiritual experience. It’s the certainty that you have found exactly that which your heart most desires. It’s the spark that comes from the recognition of The One, a celebration that The One really does exist and how fortunate you are that you found it!

Many of us have perfectly satisfactory lives in many of these areas, and to that I say, rock on! I now want to challenge you to kick it up a notch and ask yourself, is it The One? You can tell the difference. Think about a time when you found The One. What did it feel like? And where in your life would you like to summon that feeling, that recognition and certainty, next? Write a comment, and let’s get busy finding your One!

-Dr. Samantha Sutton for The Daily Love

Dr. Samantha Sutton is a Senior Coach and Director of Courses and Seminars at The Handel Group™. Samantha designs and leads the Handel Group’s™ flagship workshop, the Life Coaching Crash Course. Samantha additionally coaches at universities, such as Stanford and MIT. Prior to becoming a coach, Samantha received a Ph.D. in Biological Engineering from MIT, and then moved from engineering yeast to engineering people’s lives.

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Girl Talk Time: Do you have things or people  in your life that are The One? What do you think of this concept? List your Ones!