Surround Yourself With People Who Have Your Best Interest In Mind
As we’ve demonstrated throughout the month of August on Sheckys.com, community, especially girlfriend community, is everything! Read more from The Daily Love on why who you surround yourself with is so important, and stay tuned on Sheckys.com for our National Girlfriend Awards Presented by Shecky’s winners this coming Wednesday.
If you want to see a preview of your future, look to who you are hanging out with. This isn’t some moral statement about your peer group, it’s more of a vibrational or elevational statement.
You see, we live in a literal Uni-verse. That means that we become what we think and what we think is greatly determined by who we spend the most amount of time with.
Do you spend time with people who are constantly trashing your dreams? If so, then after time, you begin to believe their doubt and their fear; not because their doubt and fear are true, but because we are creatures of habit and our subconscious mind begins to absorb what we hear, especially the feedback from people we love and spend a lot of time with. And if you start to believe their doubt, then soon you will begin to take action from that belief in doubt and BAM—the manifestation of the belief of doubt becomes real. Not because it’s true, but because the belief of doubt became your dominant thought pattern and that thought pattern influenced your actions and your actions produced the outcome.
The outcome of our lives begins within us. If we water our dreams with doubt, then we think doubtful thoughts; take doubtful action and our lives become a living testament and proof of our belief. Then, what many people do is take this “proof” and use it to further justify their initial belief. But you see, what they’re missing this whole time is the fact that their initial thoughts of doubt is what created the outcome of doubt. They unknowingly participate in their own demise.
But, this can be prevented by hanging with the proper community of people. Let us hang with people who uplift us, who encourage us toward our dreams and who challenge our thought patterns. Let us not surround ourselves with people who always agree with us, but rather people who support our growth by challenging our beliefs and helping us break through to new mental and spiritual ground so that our lives may be enriched as a by-product.
Look around. Who are you spending time with? And more importantly, who are you believing? If you have a dream, do you believe people who are living their dreams and thus know the TRUTH about what’s possible, or do you take advice from people who aren’t living their dreams and thus will tell you it’s not possible.
Who you spend time with and who you believe is a major factor that will determine whether you are successful or not. Our aim should be to hang with people who are loving, who believe in us, who challenge us to go to the next level and who inspire us. Life is far too short to hang with people who are always negative and who want you to stay bitter and pissed off like them. It takes a lot of humility to admit when we’re wrong and to grow past our limiting beliefs. Let’s surround ourselves with people who support our growth, not necessarily the way we want, but most certainly the way we need.
Who are you spending time with? Let me know: WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com
Lots of love my friend,
Mastin
Mastin Kipp is the founder of The Daily Love, a website, daily email and Twitter account that’s merging pop culture with inspiration. He is also the co-founder of Self Approved Clothing, Ltd, a lifestyle apparel company that’s started a global self-esteem movement. The Daily Love has quickly become the fastest growing inspirational Twitter account and email list on the internet and reaches almost 400,000 people daily. Sign up for The Daily Love’s email to receive your daily dose of love>
GIRL TALK TIME: What do you think of Mastin’s advice? Who do you surround yourself with? Are there any negative people you should cut out?
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This is so true! And not only because you need supportive people around you but also because if you have friends that stand on your same level then you can go higher instead of friends that can drag you down with them if you’re not smart enough. My grandmother always says: “Tell me who you’re with and I”l tell you who you are”
I only surround myself with positive people now. All the negativity was just taking my down and I don’t need that in my life.
I only hang out with positive people. I have eliminated long time friends for being too negative – life is too short for drama and people not building one another up!!!!!
This sounds fair and makes sense.
This is so important! I am trying to be a more positive and happy person.
I want to be the type of person others want to surround themselves with.
so true, thank you! some of my ex friends need to read this so they understand why we are not friends anymore.
so true, great advice! I need to cut out certain people in my life, they are total drains
This is a great “re-evaluation” question. Especially since at times you think you are surrounding yourself with the right people, and then after the dust settles you realize you may not be. I think keeping this question in our repetoire will always allow us to be positive and happy over time. Great article!
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Most definitely. Not only the positive, but I’ve always believe in the simpler things in life in general and the less materialistic and I always like to meet new people who care about and contribute to others.
I only hang out with postive people and who have similar interest as me.
I try to do so, but I associate with everyone so a few may slip thru here and there
i am blessed to be surrounded by people who are very supportive and uplifting.
So does this mean I’m going to be more like my husband then? LOL. This totally makes sense, but I do have to say I have always been different than my friends and never once did I start believing in what they did, doing what they did, and etc. I really think it depends on the person. I do however, totally get getting rid of the negative relationships in your life. I just recently had to and it was a really good choice.
I tend to do this already. I even cut people out who are in different stages in life and have troubles accepting where I am. I cut out one of my friends from the picture during my husbands last deployment because she still couldn’t accept that I was married with a child. Hard to do at first, but has made life much less of a conflict.