Excuses, Excuses: When It’s Okay to Ditch a Wedding
Wedding season has arrived, and while we’re sure the invitations are piling up, we’re sure the “attending”s are too! When I think of my own dream wedding and all of the familiar faces I hope to see that night, it’s hard to think of any wedding I’d say “no” to, for fear of someone saying no to my own.
But in these tough economic times (though really…always), I’d assume that if you are invited to a wedding, the couple must really want you there. Whether childhood friends or more recent colleagues, I don’t plan on sending out pity invites on my special day. Similarly, I’d feel terrible saying no to someone who I’d want at my own affair.
That said, Glamour.com has compiled a list of reasons it’s actually okay to say no. Is the groom your ex? Acceptable. You’re already in another wedding the same day? Fair game. I’d like to add to the list that if you’ve simply already replied attending to another wedding the same day, you should be cut some slack. While being in the bridal party certainly adds some extra credibility to your story, timing is everything and a commitment is a commitment, whether you’ll be right up at the altar or simply watching from afar.
If you’re sick, I think you should also get a little get-out-of-jail-free card. While I am the queen of FOMO (fear of missing out) and will brave feeling somethin’ awful to do something with friends (the thought of Facebook photos without me makes me even more ill), if you are truly under the weather it makes zero sense for you to attend. Chances are you won’t like how you look, you won’t have as much fun (if any) and you run the risk of getting others sick. Sometimes saying no is exactly what the doctor ordered. Check the full list at [Glamour.com].
-Lynden Halpern
Photo credit: Glamour.com
GIRL TALK TIME: What do you think are legitimate reasons not to go to a wedding? Have you said “no” to any weddings recently? Why? Have you ever been in a fight because you didn’t attend someone’s wedding?
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Post a Commenti think my ex needs to read this article! not only is he going to a wedding this weekend with my now ex best friend (i refuse to speak to her after this betrayal), he is using it as an excuse to not see his kids for the second weekend in a row. he keeps telling me “well its family” when it is his mothers best friends daughter getting married……….honestly is that an acceptable excuse to go another weekend without seeing your kids?! i think not. oh well, let him go, i hope he has the worst time ever lol
I really really didn’t want to go to a wedding with my aunt this month, but had no excuse.
i wouldnt mind going.. love weddings
never had the options too
although the man im madly in love with is engauged to a grl who acts and looks like me, after 5 yrs w him ..ouch ego hurts
it all depends on who they are & why they want you there? is it to add to their guest list? then that’s probably a good reason not to go..
If I’m invited, and don’t have a gift, I still go….just going all that matters when it’s a friends
Weddings are pricey, (gifts) so I get it.
i would not go unless they are family or ver close friends.
dont go unless they are super close to me! otherwise its awkward when your not close to the bride & groom and have no one to go with
If I can’t make it, I will at least try to catch up with the couple out at dinner or something… This is good advice though.
great advice
At one time, I went to a wedding a month for 7 months. I should have declined some of them. Great advice.
thanks for the advice
I don’t get that many wedding invites but I try to go to everything I’m invited to. Baptisms, partys, etc. because I would want people to come to mine.
never do it, it put u in bad territory
Done the wedding shuffle a-many a day…once had three to attend in one day! Some of them are good excuses though…
I rarely actually have an invite to a wedding.
I have never “ditched” a wedding unless there was conflict with another event or if the wedding was too far to travel.
me too!
I don’t think I have ever ditched a wedding unless it was really far away.