It’s the question every girl has an opinion on: Would you ever let your guy go to a strip club? I know many women who consider this a deal-breaker, some who think it’s a guy thing and look the other way, and others who have certain specifications. While watching scantily-clad women dance around a stage isn’t something I really want my boyfriend doing, I’ll deal with it. My rule is I’m fine with you going—but no touching and no lapdances. And be respectful!
…Why would I even allow my guy to go a strip club in the first place? I’m realistic. Maybe it’s a part of a bachelor party or some other bro-bonding, but dudes go to strip clubs. It’s what they do. (C’mon ladies—why is it funny when you get a sexy fireman at a bachelorette but it’s not okay for guys to watch strippers? Double standard alert!). It’s not cheating—he’s not in love with the strippers or anything, is he? And he’s certainly not having sex with them (um, let’s hope). It’s a form of entertainment that, sure, involves women dancing around nude or half-nude, but it’s just that: something to watch.
I’ve been to strip clubs before, and while it’s not my favorite thing on the menu, there’s something about all the sparkly outfits and dramatic makeup that I’ll agree is interesting. Plus, won’t denying your guy too much ultimately make him likely to engage in bad behaviors? I have my rules, but I don’t tighten my leash to a choke-hold.
However, I draw the line at lapdances. Sure, I’ve been assured that there is “no touching,” but I really doubt that. What if your hand were to, er, slip and just brush against a body part? I’m sure you wouldn’t get slapped and kicked out for doing that. My boyfriend getting a lapdance is something that I couldn’t deal with (even though I know guys in relationships who’ve gotten them…eek).
I know by now you’re thinking that I’m anti-feminist and how dare I be okay with something that so blatantly degrades women. Maybe we haven’t been to the same strip joints, but at the places I’ve been to, the women looked like they were having…fun. And, as we’ve seen with the rise of pole-dancing workouts by Sheila Kelley and the like, this sort of dancing is actually sexually liberating and lets women feel beautiful and comfortable with their bodies. A.k.a. it’s the opposite of degradation. I’ve done a few “stripper” at-home routines, either for exercise or for fun.
So, I say to let boys be boys, within reason, of course. I trust that my current significant other will act appropriately while he is at a strip club. As for strippers themselves? I completely respect the amount of confidence it takes to get on stage and do what you do for a living.
GIRL TALK TIME: What do you think? Do you let your guy go to strip clubs? Why or why not? Have you ever been to one? Do you have any rules around it?