The jig is up…we now know that the average length of time before the first “I love you” is 97 days into a relationship, a.k.a. just a little over three months. YourTango.com believes that anything under is a bit too soon.
I totally agree that saying the big three words before three months in is way too rushed, but even the three-month mark seems a bit early to me. When someone says “I love you” in a relationship, to me that is equivalent of saying “I could potentially see myself spending the rest of my life with you,” and I don’t think I could make that decision in only three months. Of course, every relationship is different and some are more fast-paced than others.
On the other side of things, how long should you wait? YourTango.com also reports that it should not take a whole year to take that next step—it may mean your man has some commitment issues. But I beg to differ. Maybe he just wants to be absolutely sure that he loves you before he says it (or maybe he wants to ensure that you love him before he puts himself out there).
This brings us to the much-stressed issue of who says it first (read what you should do if he says it first and you aren’t ready to say it back). Personally, I’ve never said it first and I don’t think I ever will, but I sure am impressed with the ladies who have! (Also, I like seeing the guys sweat it out and get all nervous before they do it…it’s pretty cute.) I know, I know, it’s the 21st century and gals can speak their minds and not have to succumb to old-fashioned traditions. But clearly I haven’t gotten there quite yet.
Read more on [YourTango.com].
Girl Talk Time: What is a good amount of time to wait before saying “I love you”? How long is too long? Do you think the man should be the first to say it? Dish here!