When You’re the Other Woman
Cheating is the topic on the tip of everyone’s tongues today (what’s up, Arnold?). But, what happens when you’re the other woman…and you don’t even know it? Yep, turns out you can be a homewrecker without being a malicious maneater. One Staffer shares how she unknowingly became part of a cheating scandal.
“I had been seeing this guy for a few weeks and it wasn’t anything serious—a few texts here and there and meet-ups, usually at night. In retrospect, the whole seeing-each-other-only-after-dark thing should’ve tipped me off. But since I’d just gotten out of a super-intense (read: dramatic) relationship, I decided that this was a fling and I was going to go with the flow.
One night, I met him out and we went back to his place. Things got a little, um, rated R from there. Suddenly, the door opened and in walked a woman who I had never seen before in my life—all while we’re in the midst of more than making out. A heated argument ensued: Random woman claimed to be the guy I was hooking up with’s GF. ‘How could you? I drove you to work this morning,’ she hissed. ‘We’ve been broken up for two years,’ the guy shot back. Oh, and did I mention that the woman starting slapping the man—all while I was standing in the corner, sans clothes?
After a few minutes of profanity and arguing (she believed they were in a relationship, he claimed this was false), I piped up with an, ‘Excuse me! I need to get my clothing!’ Fighting (non?) couple looked up and after confused (ex?) GF hurled a few insults my way, I escaped and called for a ride. Save for the apology and the quasi-explanation that the chick was ‘an evil ex,’ I never saw him or heard from him again. I wonder if they ever settled their (insane) relationship issues.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Have you ever been the Other Woman? Or were you the innocent victim of a BF or hubby’s cheating? Ever been unfaithful in a relationship? Why do you think cheating has become such a problem? Let it out here, ladies. We’re not gonna judge.
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Post a CommentYes, I was the other woman. Dated man for over 2 years before receiving call from his wife informing me he was married. We had an intense, committed, open (all so I thought) relationship. Everyone at his work knew about me. We were in public frequently. We traveled together. She admitted to having known for more than half the time. They separated immediately after she called me. It was absolutely devastating. Still is. I was madly in love with him.
I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple of months we would talk pretty much every single day texting calling. Because im at university and he lived in my home town we didnt really see each other but I would go down to see him a couple of times and he came down to see me too…we didnt have sex I wouldnt rush into things like that didnt really talk about sex except for this ocassional flirty text here and there about it. He made me start to trust him he used to say stuff like im one of the good guys im gonna prove that to you cause actions speak louder than words.Then the other day I get a phone call from his girlfriend but luckly she realised that I didnt know. I feel so angry so humiliated he lied to me manipulated me and used me.
We’re so sorry to hear that this happened! You definitely deserve better. We hope you find an amazing, sweet, honest guy!
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Been in both. was the other woman n have been cheated on. never ends good for anyone.
I was friends with this guy for about three years. and about 4-5 months ago I went to say goodbye to him because he had joined the marine corps and we really hit it off. Like we went crazy for each other, he would tell me all the time he got butterflies and he couldn’t wait to see me and he was gonna miss me so much when he left. So we started dating and when he left I missed him so much, he wrote me a few times and I wrote him every sunday because he asked me too. It hurt my heart I missed him so much.
about two months into his training I got a facebook message from this girl, and the girl was his ex girlfriend. She asked me if I knew him, and I was so extremely confused and was like uh yeah? how come. She said to me ” I mean no disrespect I was just wondering what goes on with you two. Because you are on the list of people to send his recruiting address too. and I thought that was weird because he told me he had stopped talking to you.”
and I was like what the hell?! who is this girl telling me what my boyfriend said?! I thought she was insane at first. and we talked for quite some time. and it turns out. she’s his fiance. I promised her I would never talk to him again. and She said she’s waiting for him to come home to talk to him. I didn’t agree. I have never felt so betrayed. So heart broken. I fell so hard for this boy and he fell so hard for me, or so I thought. I haven’t gotten a letter in almost a month, and the sad thing is i’m still waiting for them. I check the mail everyday with hope, but I always get let down. He’ll be home in about 20 days, and I doubt he’ll even call.
OMG! That is so awful. At least you and the ex-girlfriend/ fiance were able to settle it in a civil and mature manner. You’re better off without him, hopefully your heart will mend soon.
Cheating today is not hard. We live in a digital world and it makes it more tempting for a man or woman to cheat! If you are on face book chatting or poking someone is that cheating? Sometimes you can put yourself in an electronic emotional relationship just from emailing, tweeting and texting. I think we need to redefine the word CHEATING. I refuse to stress over how many FB friends my man has or who he follows on twitter. I can only speak from experience I am the other woman, HIS MOM COMES FIRST! That is a topic for another forum!
Seeing that he never got in touch with her I would think that they were still seeing each other.
Agree, I think he was cheating.
LMAO!!!! Awkward…….. I might have helped her kick his a**
Ditto, kick his cheating a$$ Why would she still have a key after 2 years. Ladies we need to stick together.
What a crazy story!
Arnold’s wife knew….she’s a Kennedy! It was all a political show. She probably had her own fun!
I don’t think she knew about the other woman’s baby & all living in the same house pregnant at the same time.
she had to know,,come on ,,and if she didnt know when she was pregnant she had to know when the kid was born ,,he looks just like him,,is she blind.
Been both!
PPl cheat when they are looking for happiness… Only brings pain….
wow crazy and shocking story
I have never been the other women, but the one who was cheated on. These guys will never learn, will they.
It’s one thing to be the unknowing “other woman” to an attached man, but it’s a whole other thing to be a knowing and willing jumpoff. Most of the time, you don’t know the woman and she doesn’t doesn’t even know you exsist. She doesn’t owe you anything since she’s a victim too, so the focus of your anger and blame should always be on the cheating man. BUT if you’re the” other woman” and you know the cheated woman, or even know “of her” and you still participate in the affair, then you are just as gulity and you deserve whatever drama is coming your way. Jumpoffs never wanna take any responsiblity for thier actions and they always wanna turn it on the cheated woman. But no matter what the man says or how you may feel about him, it always comes down to self respect and morals. I’m a firm believer that KARMA is real. What goes around comes around and when it’s all said and done, KARMA always collects it’s debts. Being the other woman, willing or not, always sucks!
Good post.
I have never been the other woman…….I have been a victim and I did cheat on him after learning that. he cheated on me and it just seemed that our relationship was a lie…… I then left his sorry a**……..He tried and tried to get back with me but I was better than that….I moved on to start a better chapter of my life without him…..Men cheating will never stop.
This been going on before the test of times, it’s just that men was the solo provider and women took care of the kids and house, even if they know there man was cheating it was okay cause they take care of them but now Women are independent and use freedom of speech ,we can found out by going on t.v. shows, cheater show, lie detection, GPS on there phones, facebook, myspace, cell phone records, texts, emails, private detectors, all these things we can find out from but your heart and mind tell you before you do any of these……:(