Dating Multiple Guys Without Being Shady
In my single days of yesteryear, I dated and did not keep it to just one gentleman at once. Call me a harlot if you will, but to me dating was like finding a job…I wouldn’t give my resume to one company and hope for the best, now would I? No, I’d send it out to a few simultaneously, even build up a more serious rapport with a few at once…just as I did with dudes.
That said, I did run into a few snafus along the way, which is why I (and you) should appreciate The Frisky’s terms and conditions for dating multiple guys.
Here’s a few I broke, A few I listened to:
Texting or emailing multiple guys each day. Yes. But beware, sometimes starting a convo with one guy won’t end…and when you’ve chosen another man to go on a date with, meet up with, whatever, for the night, do not text the others back when he’s around. If he should happen to see your phone over your shoulder, things will get weird.
Dating dudes that don’t know each other and never will. Meh. I had a serious problem with recycling guys a while back, and that very bad “comfort zone” issue allowed me to get attached to two of my guy friends. While they weren’t exactly BFFs, they were in the same group-ish of peeps. When they both invited me to the same party, I called it quits. With both. Lesson learned.
Kindly breaking it off with other guys when things are starting to get serious with the one you’ve decided to start playing hide the salami with. Yes. Another word to the wise: do not expect some of the “others” to just disappear. One gentleman who I did not choose wanted to linger as a “friend.” The sort of pal who drunk dialed me at 3am. Make it clear, make it Facebook official, make sure old prospects know you’re no longer a dinner option.
Tonsil hockey or light making out (rounding second base) with as many men as you please. Staving off sex with all of ‘em—until you figure out which one you like best. Duh! Sex with many men at once would obviously make for messy emotions…along with other serious health risks.
See all rules on [TheFrisky].
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-Cait Rohan
GIRL TALK TIME: What do you think of dating multiple guys at once? Would you ever do this? What do you think of The Frisky’s rules?
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Post a Commenthaha the title is funny … yeah this was very entertaining
If you date more than one man you have to be honest. Sometimes the thought of another man having your attention will make a man work harder to win you over.
I am not saying play games with anyone’s emotions, but there is nothing wrong with keeping your options open. And if you are going to sleep with both, keep yourself safe, but everyone should be doing this anyway.
Sounds great I would really like to try this but with all parties being aware of the situation. If not I wouldn’t be able to do this without being caught. Although it seems really interesting to try to juggle them at the same time without them knowing…
thats cute but i wouldn’t try
I still don’t approve of dating more than one person at a time. Call me old fashion.
I don’t think that I can do that without being shady because guys do it all the time so therefore, if I have multiple dates, boyfriends or whatever you’d like to call it I probably would have a hard time juggling them at the same time cause with my crazy old luck I might get busted and secondly I probably wouldn’t know how to cover that up without it being so obvious so of course I’d have to throw shade right away.
Dating is healthy and doesn’t have to be with just one person. As long as all parties are aware of the situation, because you don’t want a guy to fall deeply in love you and you don’t feel the same. As long as everyone is adult about it, I say have fun and be careful.
There’s nothing wrong with dating. I date a lot… and my reason is exactly like her job comparison. How do you know what type of guy you like, if you choose the first guy that comes along? You can’t just settle.
I was told by one of my guy friends that women need to date more than one man at a time. So I am taking his advice. He also told me that it is DATING not SLEEPING AROUND…
There is nothing wrong with dating. There is something wrong with sleeping with multiple men at once.
I love this article! There is nothing wrong with multiple dating.
That’s what dating is, dating a few to know which one you like before making it exclusive.
i think we should just stick to one
They do it all the time!