In my single days of yesteryear, I dated and did not keep it to just one gentleman at once. Call me a harlot if you will, but to me dating was like finding a job…I wouldn’t give my resume to one company and hope for the best, now would I? No, I’d send it out to a few simultaneously, even build up a more serious rapport with a few at once…just as I did with dudes.
That said, I did run into a few snafus along the way, which is why I (and you) should appreciate The Frisky’s terms and conditions for dating multiple guys.
Here’s a few I broke, A few I listened to:
Texting or emailing multiple guys each day. Yes. But beware, sometimes starting a convo with one guy won’t end…and when you’ve chosen another man to go on a date with, meet up with, whatever, for the night, do not text the others back when he’s around. If he should happen to see your phone over your shoulder, things will get weird.
Dating dudes that don’t know each other and never will. Meh. I had a serious problem with recycling guys a while back, and that very bad “comfort zone” issue allowed me to get attached to two of my guy friends. While they weren’t exactly BFFs, they were in the same group-ish of peeps. When they both invited me to the same party, I called it quits. With both. Lesson learned.
Kindly breaking it off with other guys when things are starting to get serious with the one you’ve decided to start playing hide the salami with. Yes. Another word to the wise: do not expect some of the “others” to just disappear. One gentleman who I did not choose wanted to linger as a “friend.” The sort of pal who drunk dialed me at 3am. Make it clear, make it Facebook official, make sure old prospects know you’re no longer a dinner option.
Tonsil hockey or light making out (rounding second base) with as many men as you please. Staving off sex with all of ‘em—until you figure out which one you like best. Duh! Sex with many men at once would obviously make for messy emotions…along with other serious health risks.
See all rules on [TheFrisky].
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GIRL TALK TIME: What do you think of dating multiple guys at once? Would you ever do this? What do you think of The Frisky’s rules?