Shecky’s

I have always imagined my future as a stay at home mom and the thoughts were very satisfying. I love kids and I love to play with them, to be with them.
I’ve been working as a nurse for 3 years now and I’m expecting my first baby after 4 weeks. I really consider resigning and I am very determined but I know that my family will not support me . My work has brought me nothing but misery and instability. I don’t smile as I used to ..
My husband supports me though
What do you think?? Please tell me

I am 35, mother of three girls ages 16, 8, and 2. My first two I did it all I had a promising and rewarding career as a Director of Sales for the Marriott. In addition, to my success I found time to start and open my own business teaching women the “Art of Exotic Dancing, Strip tease, Burlesque, Lap & Chair dancing. My business became so busy and overwhelming bc I was the first studio to open in the state of N.J. When I decided to give up my job it was bitter sweet, I miss it at times but know being able to take part in my daughters live a bit more than what I was limited to. I love being a stay a home mom, being able to teach and do what I love the most. In addition, I’ve also found time to be my daughters girls scout troop leader. And volunteer at my parsh as a eucaristic minister. Things I wouldn’t be able to do if I worked a 9-5 again. My hours are flexible now I also home school my two year which is something I never had a chance to do with my other girls.

I am a stay at home mom and I enjoy it with no regrets. I recently told my children that mommy will be going back to work soon and my oldest son (10) replied, “But who’s going to take care of us!?” He really made me feel special. My youngest is 7. I would like to work from home though.

I’m a mother first before anything in this world so home or at work when it come to my child i’m out no matter what.

I respect the author’s opinion and obviously that choice is right for her. I do not in any way feel like I am short changing my son because I work. No parent is perfect including ones that stay-at-home. The most anyone can do is show their child on a daily basis that they are important and can have a positive impact in the world.

I am currently am a full time working mom of 2. My oldest is 2 1/2 and my youngest is 5 months. My ideal situation would be to work part-time and be a stay at home mommy part time. Financially, it is not an option for my family so I try not to dwell on it. I give lots of credit to those moms who do stay home with their kids. It is definitely much harder than going to an office to work every day and I am sure more rewarding.

If I could be a stay at home mom now I mostly likely would. If I could work part time and still be financially set, I would. My youngest is 22 months old and the days where I do stay home with her I enjoy every minute. Working full-time and being a mother of 3 leaves little time for family. By the time I get home its dinner time and then its almost time to go to bed. By the time the weekend comes you just want to stay home and rest.
Luckily I have a great partner so we take turns with household chores and dinner.
Every so often instead of cooking we will order out which gives us more time with one another. Or I’ll let my oldest children help me with dinner.
I was mostly home when my older daughter was born and I do miss those days. Going to the park when the weather is nice. Visiting friends during the day. Play dates with other mom’s and their children.
But I also do love the thrill of a work environment. Getting dressed up in the morning. Meetings and so on and so on.
I guess we can’t have it all.
Someday, hopefully.

I really take issue with the author’s comment that her mother making her and her siblings her life’s work made them the successful, intelligent individuals they are today. As if a working mother cannot raise successful, intelligent individuals? I was one of the original latchkey kids and I believe me it taught me independence, something every child needs. I knew my mother was working for my brother and me for extra money. I never felt sad or lonely. She was a stay at home mom until we entered school when she started to work. My brother and I turned out fine with successful careers and good marriages. I myself have a ten month old son and I would love to stay home with him but my husband and I need the extra salary so we can buy a home of our own. Staying home with him on my maternity leave made me appreciate stay at home mothers, it’s a 24/7 job, demanding but satisfying. I feel guilty every day that I go to work. I wish I could work from home some days, that would be the perfect set-up for me. I’m hoping with my next child I can stay home but for now I get along with help from my mother-in-law. She lives with us and takes care of my son and all of us, including the dog. I don’t have to take him to daycare, cook, clean the house or do laundry. I know I’m extremely lucky and spoiled and I thank God for her every day but on the flip side I worry that she will hear him say his first word or take his first step and that breaks my heart. Bottom line, not every woman works by choice, we all need to respect each other’s choices and not act smug and superior about said choice. You do not know what is going on in someone’s life so if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.

I have three girls 16, 8, and 2. For the first time with my 2yr old I made the choice to stay at home. Although, I miss my career as a Director of Sales for the Marriotts, I ‘ve learned to make adjustments so that I’m available for my girls in various ways. I teach pole dancing from a home base studio which I created several years ago. My classes are Mon-Fri from 6-8. When I’m not with my girls my husband is. I also home school my two year old. She resites her abc’s perfectly. She counts to 30 and she in the process of learning how to write her abc’s. I am glad I made the decision to be a stay at home mom. It has given me more availability to volunteer/leader to my 8 yr olds Girl Scouts and volunteer for our parish as a Eucharistic minister. And provide stability and watchful eye on my 16yr old. It has been rewarding, and difficult at times but I wouldn’t change anything. I am blessed.

I am a stay at home mom and although I do love it, I wish I had the best of both world and work from home. If only there were more work-from-home jobs for stay at home mom’s, then I would be set. With the economy the way it is having the extra cash is always a plus!

I used to be an attorney and I worked in Manhattan at a medium size firm. When I had my first son four years ago I stopped working. It was hard to give up my job, and I waited to tell them on the last day of my maternity leave, but I could not leave my little boy. Luckily we were able to afford living on one salary. It is hard to give up your financial independence, but nothing is better than being with my son. I just had a second child three weeks ago and I plan to continue staying home. My life as an attorney seems like a lifetime ago. I can always go back to work, but I can never get back the days I get to spend with my kids. (Although as a new mom again the thought of hiring help to care for my infant son so I can get dressed and leave the house sometimes sounds fun and enticing.) I am part of a moms club and we do so many things. There is nothing better than being a mom and being with your kids. But, it is a choice or for some a necessity. So we must all be open to different types of moms and help and support each other. One day I will go back to work — wearing suits, high heals and being my own person again. Until then I am happy to have the spit up stained clothing and paint on our clothing from our art projects.

I have no other words besides this is soo me! wow! thanks for the article.

I had been working since I was 14 years old (thats 30 years). Sometimes 4 jobs so I could be independent. Once I married and my children came along, I wanted to be with them. There are so many things going on in the world and I am grateful we were able to make that decision. However, for myself, I needed that independence. I started working for lia sophia after my second son was born and I felt like a person again. Not the mom, the wife, etc. I love having a paycheck that I can buy gifts for my husband with MY money. I love helping other women be independent or meet their needs. Being a stay at home Mom have been very tough. It is a 24/7 job. My true admiration goes to those Mom’s that balance their careers while doing the 24/7 mother job. I am sure I could find a way to do it, but I am grateful I have the opportunity to do both.

I am not a mother yet, however, I was raised by a working mother and I can tell you that me and my siblings turned out to be very independent, successful individuals. I don’t think being a stay at home mother makes you a better mother. Every women has to decide for herself if staying in the home is the right decision for her. I personally would like to work from home, or freelance when my child is under the age of 1. After that age, I don’t see why you would need to be at home all day with a child. I personally want my own career and independence. I do not want to rely on my husband or spouse to take care of me and my children. That’s just my personal opinion.

I would love to be a stay at home mom!
It’s hard though to have enough money from just one income.

I have mix feeling. I would love to stay at home. I think I would be bored until the baby started talking. I’ll mostly like work part-time until they go to high school.

I’m not anywhere to this point in my life yet, but having come from a home where my single mother worked long hours to provide for me, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to be a stay at home mom to my future children. I was a latchkey kid from the age of 8, and learned to make myself dinner and keep myself out of trouble. That enough is a good enough answer for me to choose to be a stay at home. But add the fact that kids who have had more interaction with their parents seem to be more grounded and socially adept, well that doesn’t hurt the decision either.

I have been a stay at home mom for the past 14 years. I have two sons and I have loved LOVED it. My husband and I knew that I wouldn,t work outside the home once we had children. We both came from families with stay at home moms and wanted that for our boys. Yes, we have what some would say “sacrifice”. But I have only sacrificed on material things. Nothing could compare to how rich my life has been to be with my children and raise them as we wanted them raised. Also, I LOVE being home for them when the return from school. To give them a snack and find out how their day was. I have enjoyed seeing my boys going from babies to toddlers, primary school and now my oldest will be in high school next year.

I still have a life outside my family. I meet out with my girlfriends when we can all get together, which is difficult because as stay at home moms, they’re busy with their kids. My girlfriends and I go on a long weekend once a year to get away. As women and as stay at home moms (and/or working moms) we need our friends to get out and have fun…it makes us better mothers.

I don’t and never wanted kids of my own. But I do think stay at home moms as well as dads are awesome because that is a full time job for sure. I took care of my little cousin once by myself for a couple of hrs and that was birth control.

I wish I could be a stay at home mom. I had a child very young who’s grown and now have a new baby. I never thought about it with my son but now I feel guilty leaving her at the sitter. I’m jealous she gets to enjoy all the good things with my daughter instead of me.
my husband makes good money but unfortunately he has an ex and two kids with her. so there goes what would be our extra money. I’m always looking into starting my own small business that I could do at home so i could stay home with her. but until then I’m stuck missing out on the best years of her life.