We’ve all had those nights that give us headaches for days after. I recently suffered through one of said experiences, but my pain wasn’t solely due to alcohol.
I wasn’t left feeling crummy because I’d entered a wet t-shirt contest (I have standards, you know!). I didn’t drunkenly drop my cell phone into the toilet either. And it certainly wasn’t because I’d made out with my ex-boyfriend—which is good, because I don’t think my current boyfriend would have approved. But, oh wait, one of my closest friends did—and she’s not single!
Let me set the scene. My friend and her ex had been talking and dancing all night. I’d felt uneasy about it to begin with, but in the name of not seeming too crazy, I let it go…until they started making out. As soon as I saw the face-smush and glimpsed a little tongue action (yuck!), I hurried over and pulled them apart like a principal separating two grinding teens at a school dance. They (thankfully) cut it out and that was that.
My friend hasn’t mentioned it, but I’m wracked with guilt. You see, I’m sort of friends with the cheating friend’s current boyfriend too. Plus, I keep kicking myself for not separating the infidelitous friend and her ex before they got too intimate. From the way they were dancing (clutching each other, heads resting on each other’s shoulders); it was pretty obvious that the worst was yet to come. But since I let it progress to the point of spit-swapping, I’m stuck with the terrible burden of knowing my friend cheated, and the feeling that I might have been able to stop it.
So what’s a girl to do? I know that what she did was wrong morally. But on the other hand, is it my place to intervene? She’s one of my best friends and I’d hate to ruin our friendship by butting into her drama or tattling on her, but I can’t help but feel uneasy when I see her and her boyfriend together. She’s lucky I’m good at keeping secrets, but still—I really don’t know what to do. Help!
Girl Talk Time: What would you do in this Staffer’s situation? Have you ever been in this sort of dilemma? Did you confront your friend or did you tell the person she cheated on? Why and how?