Stuck in a Rut
A friend said to me in casual conversation the other day, “What’s going on in your life?” I answered the question by staring at her blankly (a.k.a. we were on GChat and I didn’t answer…for a while).
What’s going on? I fight a constant battle with myself over whether I should get into bed every day after work or go out and enjoy myself (push myself epidemic, remember?). I am at a standstill in my romantic life after finally putting my foot down and not recycling the same old guys who keep (re)appearing in my life. I’ve been at my job for eight months now and I’m loving it…but not much has changed overall in my life. So what’s going on? A whole lot of nothing is what.
I hate to say that I’m not satisfied with life, because as I’ve noted before, I am so lucky. I have amazing friends and family, my health, a job I love and so much more to be thankful for, and I do feel fulfilled…but how come there’s that nothing feeling? Am I allowed to admit that I’m bored? I’ve noted that I’m not the most aggressive or outgoing person, so I’m sure it makes sense (and is partially my “fault”), but is it okay to be so meeeh? Am I supposed to be okay with it, or am I supposed to be proactive and make moves so as to not be bored?
I know of so many people with jam-packed calendars and their lives seem infinitely interesting. On one hand, I’m rather content with a half-full schedule and half-time to myself, but on the other hand, I wish I pushed myself more. To fill those two nights a week where I let myself veg (even if it’s with friends). It’s a battle because I do need some ‘me’ time, some early nights, some rest. But I also feel like I’m at a standstill, in a rut. This has no weight on my happiness, since I am happy as I’ve ever been. Happy, but bored.
-Lynden Halpern
GIRL TALK TIME: Do you ever feel bored for seemingly no good reason? How do you get out of a rut?
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Post a CommentI think its the small things like girls night out (or in), game night, taking a drive, etc that re-engerzies us. sometimes i think we expect life to be so “sex & the city” ( i know because when i got my apartment and car i thought it would be o so flashy) obviously not the case. when i feel in rut i do the things that i truly enjoy to wake me up!
I know that feeling all to well and I think it’s fine sometimes. I used to get in the car and just drive around listening to some great loud music.
I know the feeling! uGGgh
You know I think it’s because she doesn’t have a significant other in her life. It goes all the way back to Adam and Eve. God gave Adam anything he wanted but he still wasn’t happy because he didn’t have a companion. So he created Eve for him. It’s in our nature to be paired off. That’s just my two cents.
I get bored very easily so yes I know how it feels hahah
Walk. If I make time to walk [alone!] it gives me time to shut down and just enjoy the world. Say hello to strangers; listen to the noise in my head; notice nature; feel my body getting stronger as I walk farther. It’s great! Don’t wear a headsetl Make your own soundtrack… you may even find some answers, or at the least, the problems fade into the background.
Good advice to get moving.
I can relate…I’ve been in ruts before. My friends are always there to cheer me up with weekend plans or just to say hellp during the week.
Ruts are ok….life is a rollercoaster ride sometimes your up sometimes your down and sometimes your just just in the middle (in a rut).
Yes, agreed. This too shall pass is a good thing to keep in mind. It’s just a season, like winter. Think of it like Spring is just around the corner and new beginnings will start blossoming to get one out of a rut.
whenever im in a rut i listen to some upbeat music and sometimes it helps if its real serious got to chat on a call w/ my bestie
I totally relate. Can’t wait to read what other people have to say.
I think its amazing for you to be able to decipher your “RUT” and admit to and know why its happening. I think the best of everyone has that so called moment where they feel “bored.” The amazing part about it though is that you hold the power to change it, all you have to do is make yourself more available to knew ideas and adventures….
That’s exactly what I do. When I start to feel like that I get up and go. I take a drive to anywhere, go to a new place in town that I haven’t been or i go walking and people watching. Sometimes just doing that alone picks me up a little because you realize that all the stuff that you think is wrong really isn’t that bad.
i think we all feel that way and it is ok.
I feel the same way!
Whenever i notice that I’m feeling down…I plan a Ladies Night and even some of me closes friends over….That way I’m busy planning on the get together and I dont have time to feel so down…