How Do I Survive the Holidays Solo?
So…the holiday season is upon us. You’re single, you wish you weren’t, and you refuse to be sad or lonely this year. Yes? Okay, no sweat—Cupid’s Coach is bursting with suggestions and solutions for approaching the season solo…or maybe not so much solo….
Say Yes, Smile and Schmooze. Accept all of the party invitations that come your way. What? You don’t want to show up at the party alone? Just Do It. Go Solo. I mean it…get comfortable going to an event on your own. Holiday parties are the very best events to go to stag—bring a sweet little gift for the host and make it your mission to walk right up and bring a smile to the face of each and every person in the room.
TIP: Play “waiter” by picking up a tray of appetizers, champagne or eggnog and waltz right up to that group of “strangers” to offer up some tantalizing goodies. Focus outward; bring the party to life with your smile and your spirit of contribution.
Meet Some New Men. Quickest, best way to bring some new MEN into your life? Plan a Plus One Party—invite a group of single women you’ve been wanting to know better, and have each of them bring an unattached man to share—a co-worker, colleague, neighbor, ex-boyfriend. The more women you invite…the more men you’ll get to meet.
TIP: Gather and share contact information with each person who attends to beef up that black book.
Girl Time. Balance out your flirting activities by planning some heart-warming gatherings with the women who feel like soul sisters to you. Conspire with a gal pal to choose the date and the place and invite a handful or a bunch of women who touch and inspire you, then bring them together for a gift-wrapping party, wine tasting or cookie baking.
Give. Balance out your “me-me-me” activities and parties with a couple of never-before-experienced volunteer or charity adventures. Easy to find, too; type in your city on Charity-Charities.org, and you’ll be amazed at the love-inspired gatherings that are happening in your backyard.
Give More. Have a real adventure this year planning out your gift giving. Really do it right this time. Make a list of all the most important people in your life and find a way to touch each of them. A card written with care, a phone call, a thoughtful gift…or what will likely matter the most: the gift of your presence.
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-Julie Ferman of Cupid’s Coach
Julie Ferman is Cupid’s Coach. She’s a personal matchmaker and dating coach, responsible for over 1,100 marriages.
Julie founded her personal matchmaking and dating coaching service, Cupid’s Coach to dignify and simplify the love search process for selective, relationship-minded professionals. The company is currently California’s largest, fastest growing personal introduction service and is rapidly expanding, with 50 locations throughout the U.S.
Julie met her husband of 20 years through a proactive love search of her own, and has spent every day since helping the rest of us fall in love and stay in love. Julie Ferman knows the love business and is eager to share her secrets with us.
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GIRL TALK TIME: Are you single? How are you meeting guys? What do you think of Julie’s advice? How are you spending the holidays? Do you feel lonely this time of year?
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16 Comments
Post a CommentJust like u survive everyday of your life.
Not ready for the dating schene.. Not ready for the drama.. I still have two young boys to raise.. lol don’t need to add another one to the list!
lol
for me yes I am single and at this point, I am loving the single life. for one it gives me time to get connected with myself..Get to know me all over again. Some just me time. Around this time of year I am never lonely. I have family and friends and my grandkids that make this day soo special and that A child was born on this Day and I can say thank you God for give us your son.
For Julie I think they are some great tips to use later down the line for me but great advice.
I like the Bachelor hood lifestyle. It gives me a chance to meet more woman.
Good article, I might sign up for her site.
I’m single and loving it
nice ideas
Im single and i agree with how you look at things, i just get reminded im single by all my attached friends who keep telling me i need a man….GRR don’t NEED one but sometimes it would be nice to have one. LIke around the holidays…..i like the charities idea, im going to look into that one
I feel the same way. My friends think that I need to have someone, anyone and I don’t think so. I have meet some guys and they have not been right, but it would be nice to have someone for when you needed them.
yeah couln’t agree with you more, Feels like settling if your just willing to date anyone you know what i mean….
I think it depends on how you view your cup…half empty or half full. I’m single and I have both single & attached friends. I too accept all invites to holiday parties, great opportunity to get out & schmooze. It can be a little weird when everyone has plans w/their significant others. Or everyone at an event is coupled off and your the 5th, 7th or 9th wheel, lol. But I survived!
It’s not bad being single during the holidays if the rest of your friends are as well. But being the last single girl standing is completely different. I try to find comfort in family and friends (and their families) but it’s definitely not easy.
I’m not single but when I was, I could relate to the article. It was nice going out to holiday parties with single friends because we had more fun. We didn’t have to worry whether our dates were having a good time.
Being single during the holidays was never horrible..I guess because most of my friends were single too!
I’m not single, but being single during the holidays isn’t terrible, I’ve done it for many years.