Why the Wandering Eye, Guys?!
We’ve related our feelings on men cheating before, and we were psyched when MizzOCD asked a great question about why guys always feel the need to stare at other ladies. Single or married, 21 or 51, all it takes is a pretty girl to pass and their eyes glaze over, their jaws hang slack and they seem to be transported to a totally different planet. We got our panel of men to weigh in about this recurring phenomenon, and here’s what they have to say.
See their surprising responses and submit a question of your own. Our men could solve your male mystery next time around.
QUESTION:
“Why do men use the ‘it’s in our nature’ bit when their significant other catches them looking at another woman? Do they honestly think we believe this?”
ANSWERS:
Mr. Love Boys Too SEE BIO NOW>
Are you serious? It’s in our nature as much as it’s in your nature. My mother was once famously caught looking at another guy and my father called her out on it. We kids asked her if it was true that she was checking this guy out. Her reply was, “I’m old, not blind!”
My boyfriend and I often talk about the insanely hot guys that we saw during the day. I’ve been banned about talking about them unless I can provide a picture to go along with the story. It is human nature to look at pretty people—whomever you define as pretty. Bottom line is, “Look at the menu all you want, as long as you know where dinner is served.”
Mr. Noncommittal SEE BIO NOW>
We use the excuse because it’s true. I don’t know a straight man who doesn’t look at other women. Of course, there’s a difference between looking, ogling…and acting on it. “It’s in my nature” is not an excuse for cheating and over-ogling is just downright stupid, at which point you might want to examine whether or not you’re simply dating a moron.
I’m sure women look, but you’re a bit more discreet. I’m the first one to admit that men are sometimes as dumb as a box of hair, but like the question says/asks…“it’s just our nature.” I will say that when I really care about a woman, the looking is a lot less, so take that as a sign as to how your guy feels. If he looks too much, it’s time for you to look elsewhere. Also, in my honest opinion, a man who looks too much is either unhappy, a player or just an idiot. But then again, it is our nature.
Mr. Sensitive and Scientific SEE BIO NOW>
Emotionally, biologically and sociologically, men are visual creatures. We don’t choose to be stimulated by visuals of women any more than women are drawn to guys who exhibit success, leadership, confidence, or can’t get their life together but play in a band. If you don’t believe me (or your significant other), I’d recommend trusting Nancy Etcoff, who wrote Survival of the Prettiest ($10.88 on Amazon.com) or Jenna Pincott’s Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes? ($10.20 on Amazon).” Seeing a devastating woman walk by generates the physical feelings of a tightened chest and elevated heart rate, just like a preteen girl at a Bieber concert. We’re not in control of physiological responses like that.
Frankly, it’s in our nature not only to stare, but also to cheat. The amazing thing about being a human being, however, is that we can transcend our basic nature. I stare, and I’ve never cheated in a committed relationship. What you should really be curious about is what your significant other says about whether he’s going to be faithful…and whether you believe that.
Mr. In a Relationship SEE BIO NOW>
From Adam and Eve forth, it has been in a man’s nature to be “fruitful and multiply and to fill the earth….” There isn’t a little asterisk next to this statement in the Bible that states “…however, when you are in a relationship, you must stop.” In other words, we weren’t created with the focus to propagate, but then the ability to prohibit every one of these tendencies, including checking out other women, once we’re in a relationship.
However, please notice my use of “every one of these tendencies” in the above statement. Morals, integrity, society, law and plain good manners dictate our levels of “multiplying” when in a relationship, so obviously I’m not implying that anyone has an excuse to be unfaithful in a committed relationship. But your question is: Why do men use the excuse, “It’s in our nature?” The obvious answer is…that it is in our nature. Should we? Well, that’s another story….
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Post a CommentIt’s in everyone’s nature to be attracted to beautiful people. However being in a commited relationship, (in my opinion) I have the most attractive man to look at whenever I want, why would I want to look anywhere else?! As to why your man uses “It’s in our nature”….. baloney, toss him to the curb… he’s just looking for an easy cop out and it’s L.A.M.E.
I think Mr. Sensitive said it perfectly, and I also thinks most girls get way too upset over this, we all look too.
Why do women look at handbags and shoes?
What about flowers? Paintings in the museum?
Women are beautiful. They’ve made efforts to be attractive and appealing, and they’ve often worked with a generous helping of natural beauty, or up from a disadvantage. Either way, they are as interesting to the eye as a car crash, a Bergdorf window, a view of the Matterhorn. You look too! Don’t let your self-esteem affect what you can accept. He is with you. Point them out to him. “Did you see her?”
BTW – MizzOCD: “…get…into more trouble?” That’s the problem with long term relationships. Women, you think that your man can “get in trouble.” if he can, then you are treating him like a BOY and eventually he will either rebel against it or – if he accepts the yoke – you will lose attraction to him.
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WOW …………
Looking is okay, staring is not okay!
women look at other men too…don’t think we don’t. the beautiful male specimens we stop and stare at are often conversation starters at girls night…and the other girls are typically in awe of the descriptions we give. but we look at other girls too. i myself am bisexual and personally think women are much more pleasing to the eye then men, but i know plenty of straight women who also love to check out other women, and not just to make themselves feel better about their own bodies. this is actually more common conversation among my girls then around my boys. my girls and i love to talk about the gorgeous men and women who catch our eyes, whether we are gay straight or bi
I think that it is just part of nature. As long as they are not long for or acting on it I think that it is ok to look. We all do it, even girls.
i dont’ see the big deal its nature girls look at guys 2! its just that maybe were less obvious!!!
If my man looks at another woman, I’m gonna look at another man and love every second of it too!
well i have a question for Mr. In a relationship. Now if you are going to use 1 verse out the bible please use it right!!!! Now since you want to get holy in the book of matthew 5:28 “but i say to you that EVERYONE that keeps looking at a woman so to have compassion for her has already committed aldultry with her in his heart.”Now that was the words straight from Jesus Christ’s mouth! Please don’t twist the bible around to fit your sick desires. BREAK THE CHAIN!!! ITS NOT RIGHT! You can say whatever you want and you can fool every female that’s dumb anough to listen, but baby you can’t fool God. Sorry. My question is please read that scripture and understand that i man’s role is alot more important than just “multiplying”
i have learned that he is with who he wanted to be with.we all have a wondering eye from time to time.its when we touch thats its a problem.
is ok to look
I think it’s only nature for men and women to look at the opposite sex. As long as they don’t cheat, I don’t see the harm.
Girls!! Don’t let your man’s wandering eyes spark jealousy or anger. I’ve caught mine do so once or twice and I just either laugh as though he’s noticed her ugly get-up, hair-do…etc., check her out (quick glance) with him (she’s cute but has got nothing on me), or am just to busy with myself that I don’t see him do so. In turn, he comes up to me, embraces me tightly, and plants a good kiss on me, in front of the girl he “oogled”. Let your man know you SURE as HELL know that you are ONE SEXY/ BEAUTIFUL and UNiQUE woman.
We’ve seen men fall completely head over heels for women that don’t fit OUR OWN beauty/ sexy standards. But his eyes (and heart) tell him differently. His woman is confident in her body, and has no need to dress exaggeratingly sexy to keep his eyes on her. This ladies, makes him go ga-ga for you.
i Agree with most of these opinions that the guys shared. I firmly believe that women look too, just discretely and not obvious like MOST men do
Thanks Boys for replying to my question. I really got to look at it from different points of view [which helped].
I agreed and disagreed with all your reasonings behind ‘its in our nature’.
Your perspectives were very eye opening.
Thanks!
However, MEN MEN MEN if you do look just say you looked. Denying it will just get you into more trouble.
I think it’s funny to watch a man turn his neck 180 degrees to stare at a woman and they don’t see that you’ve caught them!
There’s a clear differece btwn checking someone out and outright staring at another person while you are in the prescence of your significant other. It’s human nature to notice attractive people but there’s a respectful way to do a quick look. Any form of whiplash, lingering stares, or comments made out loud is extremely disrespectful.
cute little kityy with the keyboard. Haven’t seen that before.
Oh and to the “its in our nature” comment, its another dumb excuse men try to use to justify their actions. Let it go guys! Just let your woman know that you weren’t tryin to be disrespectful and that you didn’t realize u had looked long enough for her to notice.
Guys its ok to look so long as its not a long gawk followed by a comment on how “bad” the woman is. Guys, don’t be sooo obvious, show some discretion and respect not only for your woman but the other one you are lookin at.