We’ve related our feelings on men cheating before, and we were psyched when MizzOCD asked a great question about why guys always feel the need to stare at other ladies. Single or married, 21 or 51, all it takes is a pretty girl to pass and their eyes glaze over, their jaws hang slack and they seem to be transported to a totally different planet. We got our panel of men to weigh in about this recurring phenomenon, and here’s what they have to say.
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“Why do men use the ‘it’s in our nature’ bit when their significant other catches them looking at another woman? Do they honestly think we believe this?”
Mr. Love Boys Too SEE BIO NOW>
Are you serious? It’s in our nature as much as it’s in your nature. My mother was once famously caught looking at another guy and my father called her out on it. We kids asked her if it was true that she was checking this guy out. Her reply was, “I’m old, not blind!”
My boyfriend and I often talk about the insanely hot guys that we saw during the day. I’ve been banned about talking about them unless I can provide a picture to go along with the story. It is human nature to look at pretty people—whomever you define as pretty. Bottom line is, “Look at the menu all you want, as long as you know where dinner is served.”
Mr. Noncommittal SEE BIO NOW>
We use the excuse because it’s true. I don’t know a straight man who doesn’t look at other women. Of course, there’s a difference between looking, ogling…and acting on it. “It’s in my nature” is not an excuse for cheating and over-ogling is just downright stupid, at which point you might want to examine whether or not you’re simply dating a moron.
I’m sure women look, but you’re a bit more discreet. I’m the first one to admit that men are sometimes as dumb as a box of hair, but like the question says/asks…“it’s just our nature.” I will say that when I really care about a woman, the looking is a lot less, so take that as a sign as to how your guy feels. If he looks too much, it’s time for you to look elsewhere. Also, in my honest opinion, a man who looks too much is either unhappy, a player or just an idiot. But then again, it is our nature.
Mr. Sensitive and Scientific SEE BIO NOW>
Emotionally, biologically and sociologically, men are visual creatures. We don’t choose to be stimulated by visuals of women any more than women are drawn to guys who exhibit success, leadership, confidence, or can’t get their life together but play in a band. If you don’t believe me (or your significant other), I’d recommend trusting Nancy Etcoff, who wrote Survival of the Prettiest ($10.88 on Amazon.com) or Jenna Pincott’s Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes? ($10.20 on Amazon).” Seeing a devastating woman walk by generates the physical feelings of a tightened chest and elevated heart rate, just like a preteen girl at a Bieber concert. We’re not in control of physiological responses like that.
Frankly, it’s in our nature not only to stare, but also to cheat. The amazing thing about being a human being, however, is that we can transcend our basic nature. I stare, and I’ve never cheated in a committed relationship. What you should really be curious about is what your significant other says about whether he’s going to be faithful…and whether you believe that.
Mr. In a Relationship SEE BIO NOW>
From Adam and Eve forth, it has been in a man’s nature to be “fruitful and multiply and to fill the earth….” There isn’t a little asterisk next to this statement in the Bible that states “…however, when you are in a relationship, you must stop.” In other words, we weren’t created with the focus to propagate, but then the ability to prohibit every one of these tendencies, including checking out other women, once we’re in a relationship.
However, please notice my use of “every one of these tendencies” in the above statement. Morals, integrity, society, law and plain good manners dictate our levels of “multiplying” when in a relationship, so obviously I’m not implying that anyone has an excuse to be unfaithful in a committed relationship. But your question is: Why do men use the excuse, “It’s in our nature?” The obvious answer is…that it is in our nature. Should we? Well, that’s another story….
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