Friendship Drama: Chick Fights
We’re thinking about all things beautiful this week, but while we’re on the subject of pretty makeup and the latest eyeshadow shades, we kinda can’t think about something that’s a little opposite and definitely ugly: friendship fights. Remember the Staffer who penned “Should I Forgive My Ex-Best Friend?” She had a run-in with her ex-BFF and here’s how it went down.
“Like most of America, I’m a fan of some of the most unintelligent reality shows, and like many of the viewers out there, I love seeing a good chick fight on TV. From the Real Housewives to Jersey Shore, good ol’ fashioned artificial nail-scratchin’, table throwin’ ashamedly makes me more inclined to tune in every week. I know I should be sipping fine wine and watching the History channel at this point in my life, but alas. And as shocked/horrified as I am when reality TV ‘stars’ fight, I hate to admit that I got into an ugly fight with an ex-best friend/now frenemy once. While it didn’t turn physical, I’m still not proud of what I did.
The scene: a Friday night. The situation: a group of friends had met up at the bar, and one of my most peace-making pals had decided to invite my ex-bestie. I hadn’t talked to her in two years, and I still didn’t care for her since I’d heard stories from my friends that sounded like she was still her usual conniving self. Needless to say, I didn’t go out of my way to say hello—I thought I’d just keep to myself, and we’d part paths at the end of the night without acknowledging each other’s existence.
…Until tequila entered the scene. On the way to say hi to another pal, I bumped into said ex-BFF—yes, she was in my way, but perhaps I did ‘fall’ into her a bit too forcefully. In reaction, she turned around and started yelling things that would necessitate a censor bar were I to write them here. Oh, and did I mention that this girl has a rep for punching dudes (just like J Woww!). Fueled by two years of anger, I spewed right back and her…and she moved closer…and closer, yelling in my face…at which point, I walked out and left the bar, with all of ‘our’ friends following me. I still feel silly about it to this day, but now any mutual acquaintances know to keep the two of us separated (oops!).”
GIRL TALK TIME: Have you ever gotten into a public altercation with a gal? How did it start? What went on? Did you feel as silly as the Staffer did? Or are you fine with what happened? What do you think of the above fight? Spill it, we’re not judging.
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Post a CommentTwo of my best friends, who used to be best friends as well, got into a huge fight. I was drawn into the middle. I see both sides of the story and understand the hurt that the one feels about what was said. Both of them were invited to my wedding and luckily they made up enough to be pleasant with each other and not cause a scene. Sometimes you may want to say things to a friend but in the end there are statements and opinions that should never be voiced. I learned that from my friends and thankfully not cat fights erupted when they finally were in the same room again!
this has not happened to me. bravo though!
Oh yess… This has unfortunately happened to me. A friend of mine (at the time) was usually quite the drama queen and was known for outlandish behavior. We had had an on again/off again friendship because of this. A few days before the fight im about to tell you, she had told me that she appreciated how i had no qualms about telling her if she was acting a fool. So this particular night, she was getting quite tipsy and acting rediculous. Shouting accross the bar at her ex boyfriend, saying she was going to rip the necklace off of him that she had bought him. But that was only because that one replaced a necklace she had already ripped off of him once before! So here i am, thinking to myself, “hey, she said to put her in her place if she started acting foolish.” And being the good friend i am i told her to cut it out. I then turned forward to the bar and from her direction i get a full glass of a cranberry vodka cocktail to my face! After my eyes stopped stinging, i saw everyone in the room look at eachother like “ooohh god…whats gonna happen!?” I looked at her, as shes backing away from me looking like she just made a huuuge mistake, and asked her if that was her that did it. She just tried to walk backwards from me looking bewildered. I started to kind of go after her, but everyone grabbed me cause they all knew who was gonna win that fight. Im small, but i am fiesty! So since i was being held back, i took a hint from how she liked to abuse the very ex that she had been yelling at. I started taking off my high heels and i threw them as hard as i could at her. She actually used to take her heels off and beat her bf with them! Suffice it to say, i did not want to be associated with her anymore. I had taken the fall for her numerous times when we were younger, always getting us into shannanigans while i was trying to get us out! Im not saying i acted favorably, but i can assure you i dont have that kind of drama anymore!
Oh yess… This has unfortunately happened to me. A friend of mine (at the time) was usually quite the drama queen and was known for outlandish behavior. We had had an on again/off again friendship because of this. A few days before the fight im about to tell you, she had told me that she appreciated how i had no qualms about telling her if she was acting a fool. So this particular night, she was getting quite tipsy and acting rediculous. Shouting accross the bar at her ex boyfriend, saying she was going to rip the necklace off of him that she had bought him. But that was only because that one replaced a necklace she had already ripped off of him once before! So here i am, thinking to myself, “hey, she said to put her in her place if she started acting foolish.” And being the good friend i am i told her to cut it out. I then turned forward to the bar and from her direction i get a full glass of a cranberry vodka cocktail to my face! After my eyes stopped stinging, i saw everyone in the room look at eachother like “ooohh god…whats gonna happen!?” I looked at her, as shes backing away from me looking like she just made a huuuge mistake, and asked her if that was her that did it. She just tried to walk backwards from me looking bewildered. I started to kind of go after her, but everyone grabbed me cause they all knew who was gonna win that fight. Im small, but i am fiesty! So since i was being held back, i took a hint from how she liked to abuse the very ex that she had been yelling at. I started taking off my high heels and i threw them as hard as i could at her. She actually used to take her heels off and beat her bf with them! Suffice it to say, i did not want to be associated with her anymore. I had taken the fall for her numerous times when we were younger, always getting us into shannanigans while i was trying to get us out! Im not saying i acted favorably, but i can assure you i dont have that kind of drama anymore!
This is not my thing! I don’t like to fight or argue.
I can’t stand confrontation, so I’ve never been in a situation like this.
I have seen this happen once alcohol is involved, but I generally walk away rather the entertain such childish behavior.
No, can’t say that I have.
Fights between friends are always silly. Unfortunately they do happen. Walking away was the right thing to do. Who fist fight anymore anyway? I got into an argument with a gal pal before in public of all places at the metro station. We’d just left a Nationals game when she decided that despite trying to get on the train and to our stop before midnight; she all of a sudden didn’t want to be in a crowd. Crazy, right? Previously, at a stadium filled with Nationals and Phillies fans and now you dont want to be in a crowd? So she tries to convince me that we should walk two blocks to another metro station entrance. My response was, we just left a crowd and will be boarding a crowded train. Anyway, long story, short: she ends up rolling her neck and eyes and starts shouting to me that she “don’t like crowds and didn’t feel like being around a lot of people, so drop it!” So, I said exactly what I was thinking, “shut up, that makes no sense”. She was offended that I told her to shut up so we boarded the train, didn’t sit together or speak the entire ride. Wasn’t until we got back to her car that we talked and apologized to each other.
never happen to me
i have a friend that i do not talk to anymore because of drama. some things are better this way.
It all happens .. but in the end everything we argued about sounds so silly.. doesn’t even matter
theres an occasional altercation with a gal pal but never got too crazy
It’s hard no matter what you do. I recently had a falling out with a really good friend of years and it actually turned out to be better for me. Less stress, less drama, I wish that wasn’t the case as she is a wonderful person, but I feel so much better without the drama and everything.
thank God this never happened to me
Sometimes you have to do what you got to do. However, when its not worth the time and effort its best to just move a long. You have to learn to pick your battles. She didn’t have to spew out expletives @ you. BUT we have to defend ourselves.
I think you did the right thing. You walked away. You said what you had and that was that.
I’ve gotten into altercations with women before, but they have been verbal, not violent. I’m not big on confrontation, so it takes a lot to stir me up to cause a scene.