Office Relationships
Every day, someone somewhere is starting a new job, and every day, people in the workplace are forming new relationships. From friends to frenemies to crushes to romances, the workplace, just like anywhere else, is a prime place to meet and mingle. We asked one of our Staffers about a romantic relationship with someone she used to work with. Here she is sharing all….
“I worked with this guy just over three years ago. We were friends and I never looked at him romantically at all. Not that I ever gave it much thought, but to be honest, I found him to be kinda lame and I assumed that we wouldn’t have anything in common…like at all. Well, you know how they say that you never know what’s right under your nose. One day in the conference room, we were all talking about music, and to my complete and utter shock he mentioned that he liked R&B (my favorite genre!) and started talking about the artist Monifa. Monifa was like a two-hit wonder, so needless to say, I was impressed, and from that point on, I knew we had much more in common than I could have ever imagined.
From that day forward, we started to go to lunch together and talk, and we were amazed at how much we had in common. Next thing I knew, we were in a relationship! As much as I could have never pictured it happening, being with him made sense and it felt right.
I will say that office romances are fun at first. The secrecy brings a certain thrilling aspect that you wouldn’t normally have, but after a while, it takes a toll. We were constantly worrying that someone saw us holding hands or kissing, and it was especially nerve-wrecking in environments where one or both of us could get fired if discovered. My advice is: Never date a manager/subordinate because there is way too much stress involved.
While my relationship didn’t end because of us working together, it’s easy for me to see how it can turn into a sticky situation. If you are going to date a colleague, be honest with yourself about the consequences and whether or not it will truly be worth it in the end.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Have you ever made friends at work? How about work frenemies? Ever fallen for someone at work? Tell us your stories! This site is no boys allowed and you can totally make up a username so your boss won’t see (wink, wink…).
Cart
31 Comments
Post a CommentI make it a point not to date a coworker, I have never seen it go well, unless one leaves the company! And NEVER date the person who signs your time card!
I have fallen for someone at work and it did not work out! Although we’re trying to patch things up now to at least be friends at work..its still REALLY AKWARD seeing him everyday! Never doing that again!
I dated someone at work and you are right the flirting is fun. The encounters after dating were awkward but you get over it.
Good article
Been there done that. It didn’t work out. Now I have to see him every so often. I think he pictures me naked. We still remained friends and keep it strictly professional.
@Miss Jones, I am still good friends with one of the interns who worked at my job. She lives a couple of blocks away too.
I dating someone I worked with in the past. The relationship did not work out and it was very awarkard when we broke up.
Dating people at work is dangerous but oh so exciting …the best part is flirting!
I’ve got friends at work & people that I don’t care for but I’m still professional toward them.
I think everyone makes friends at work. I think another interesting question might be: Have you ever made friends at work who remained your friend after one of you left?
Good question, Miss Jones. It seems an average of one person per job has remained a good friend. Funny how that works.
I still am good friends with someone who used to intern at my job. We go out every so often. And whats great is she lives a couple of blocks away.