Every day, someone somewhere is starting a new job, and every day, people in the workplace are forming new relationships. From friends to frenemies to crushes to romances, the workplace, just like anywhere else, is a prime place to meet and mingle. We asked one of our Staffers about a romantic relationship with someone she used to work with. Here she is sharing all….
“I worked with this guy just over three years ago. We were friends and I never looked at him romantically at all. Not that I ever gave it much thought, but to be honest, I found him to be kinda lame and I assumed that we wouldn’t have anything in common…like at all. Well, you know how they say that you never know what’s right under your nose. One day in the conference room, we were all talking about music, and to my complete and utter shock he mentioned that he liked R&B (my favorite genre!) and started talking about the artist Monifa. Monifa was like a two-hit wonder, so needless to say, I was impressed, and from that point on, I knew we had much more in common than I could have ever imagined.
From that day forward, we started to go to lunch together and talk, and we were amazed at how much we had in common. Next thing I knew, we were in a relationship! As much as I could have never pictured it happening, being with him made sense and it felt right.
I will say that office romances are fun at first. The secrecy brings a certain thrilling aspect that you wouldn’t normally have, but after a while, it takes a toll. We were constantly worrying that someone saw us holding hands or kissing, and it was especially nerve-wrecking in environments where one or both of us could get fired if discovered. My advice is: Never date a manager/subordinate because there is way too much stress involved.
While my relationship didn’t end because of us working together, it’s easy for me to see how it can turn into a sticky situation. If you are going to date a colleague, be honest with yourself about the consequences and whether or not it will truly be worth it in the end.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Have you ever made friends at work? How about work frenemies? Ever fallen for someone at work? Tell us your stories! This site is no boys allowed and you can totally make up a username so your boss won’t see (wink, wink…).