Boyfriend envy. We’re pretty sure at one point every woman has been a liiiiittle teensy bit (fine, very) jealous of her friend’s boyfriend or husband. One Staffer writes in about the time she was crushing on her best friend’s boyfriend. Read her situation and tell us if you’ve ever been stuck in this jam.
“Here’s the sitch: I’m not a bad person, I just kiiiinda envied my friend’s boyfriend once. From the second she started dating him, her BF and I got along like BFFs. He was insanely funny—something I’m a complete sucker for, but she found his sense of humor annoying and immature, shooting us dirty looks as we watched YouTube and talked sports and South Park.
He treated her well and always hung out with us, but she didn’t really seem to appreciate him, rolling her eyes when he called and complaining about their relationship. He and I always wanted to go out, encouraging my friend, his girlfriend, to play as many stupid (but fun!) drinking games as possible and head out to try new places.
He was also into music like I am. I felt like my friendship status with his girlfriend was headed to defriend town every time her boyfriend brought his iPod out and asked me what songs we should listen to, if I’d heard of some new artist, song, etc…while his girlfriend/my friend scowled in the background.
It got so bad, that at one concert we all went to (him and I naturally wanted to get as close as possible, and we were laughing and dancing like idiots) someone referred to us as ‘boyfriend-girlfriend.’ We gave each other…awkward looks, and I was thankful that my friend, his actual girlfriend, was not up front with us. I liked him because we had a lot of the same interests, but mostly I loved spending time with him because he was so energetic and fun.
I never would have done anything out of respect for my friend and their relationship, but I did kinda-sorta like him, and the whole thing kinda-sorta freaked me out. I eventually got over the boyfriend crush by taking the qualities that I liked in her man and finding my own (and 100x better!) version.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Do you know what she’s talking about? Have you ever crushed on a friend’s significant other? How did you deal?