The Secrets to a Successful Marriage
In an age where marriages have an average shelf life of months as opposed to years, it makes a Sheckster wonder how the couples that do last make it work. How, despite the commonality of divorce and the prevalence of polygamy, they manage to stay together, and stay smiling at that. We polled the smartest people we know (our Staffers!) to find out what it takes to make a marriage last.
Here’s what our married Staffers had to say:
“Always make each other laugh.”
“Take time every day to chat with each other, and always be honest and open.”
“Lots of cuddling is key.”
“Have a life together, but maintain your independence.”
“It’s the little, kind things you do for each other that matter most.”
“Without trust and compromise, your marriage will never work.”
“Once you’re mommy and daddy, don’t stop being husband and wife. When the kids go off, it’s hard to go back if you gave up those roles.”
-Lynden Halpern
GIRL TALK TIME: Are you married? What are your words of wisdom for sustaining a successful marriage? What’s the best advice you’ve ever received about marriage?
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I been married for 22 years and communication is very important and love, the rest is up to u, cause what work for me may not work for you. Always keep GOD FIRST…..
communication…..all the way…and listening…..and understanding….
Communication is def the key to a successful marriage, along with compassion, understanding, trust, love and being able to compromise. Being a TEAM is a GREAT thing, especially if you have kids. Being able to keep your sex lives healthy is a plus, you wouldn’t want things to turn sour on that end because that can definitely put a damper on your marriage…so being sensitive to one anothers needs is also important. You wouldn’t want him or her to go somewhere else for it..
I’ve only been married a year but with him for 5 and I’ve learned: 1-decide if something is worth getting angry/fighting about. Alot of things we should just brush off instead of fussing about it. 2-it’s okay to get mad and not speak to each other-just long enough to cool off but you HAVE to talk about it later 3-communication-you can’t assume anything no matter how small because if you do you will find out that you were probably wrong 4. You will not always be in the mood for sex-even as newlyweds. However-he probably will. Do it anyways-sex really does increase intimacy in marriages. 5. compromise is good for a marriage as long as it goes both ways 6. Love him and try to keep him happy and make him smile-any man who really loves you will do the same to you.
Communication is the key to a successful marriage
Not married yet, but hopefully one day. Communications is the key
Great article! More of these. Pics of older couples always touches me.
I have never wanted to get married and as I get older I feel more against it. For any successful relationship, I think it requires patience, kindness, and humor.
It’s definitely a lot of give and give….that’s just observing my parents. They will be celebrating their 49th wedding anniversary in a few months.
The best secret is communication, and lots of lovin’!
I believe the key to having a successful marriage is communication which is the key, because neither one of you are mind readers so listen to one another when speaking and for an everlasting marriage, you must always keep the spark in the relationship even if it means trying new things because remember ladies, what you won’t do another woman will.
So be attentive at all times…
Compromise, compromise, compromise. Not just on your end though he has to give in as well.
I have been married for 6 years and I agree with most of what has been said, don’t forget about always making time for both of you away from the kids, always say yes to sex!!, never go to sleep mad at each other, give yourself space, and show you still care like the first day. Most importantly don’t think life will always be perfect or that you will never fight, you need to know arguing is normal and you need to get through the tough times together because it’s what makes the relationship stronger and more durable.
you have to give alittle ,then u have to give alot, and forgive and try to forget,if u love this person u wont mind
trust, compromise, time together but maintaining your independence, and not going to bed angry.
I have been married for 30 years but together 33. You have to be honest and faithful. It isn’t easy it is a lot of hard work!
All good adivce.. defiently keep ur independence..And make it to Shecky’s GNO at least once a year!!!!!!!!
Still hoping it happens for me one day!
I could olny hope to have as happy a marriage as my parents …some kids aren’t so lucky