Does Size Matter?!
We have to admit it: sometimes we judge guys…based on their size. Before you start flooding our comments and call us superficial, hear us out for a moment: How is it fair that guys judge us on our boobs, butts and everything else every day…but uh, we never get to see any manly parts before we accept a first date? Short of wearing a full-length turtleneck dress and asking men to wear transparent trousers, one Staffer ponders on how to solve this perplexing problem.
“I was on the subway and a creepy guy was staring at my cleavage. Then, I felt him do elevator eyes over my legs, my butt and back up to the boobs. Ew. How is it fair that guys can instantly judge our bodies with all of our, er, womanly parts, but we can see nothing of their important guy ones? Unless I’m getting X-Ray (XXX-Ray?!) vision soon or you’re really happy to see me (umm, ick?), I’m pretty sure I can’t tell the size of your package through those jeans, suit pants, board shorts….
Men can look at us and do a quick assessment. Usually go for girls with big boobs? The well-endowed lady over there is your cup of tea. More of a “butt” man? The bootylicious babe flaunting it will get a call. But how am I supposed to know or even attempt to judge a guy’s size just by eyeballing him? (P.S.: It’s way more discreet to glance at a chest or butt than I imagine it would be to get waist level and stare.) I would love to think that people ask each other out all the time because they are sl-oooowy gazing into one another’s souls (down their shirts), but let’s be serious for a sec—physical attraction, lust and sex are just as important as romance and being compatible.
Case in point: One of my friends was dating a guy who was nice, smart, had a great job and treated her well. She really liked him…until they slept together. Why did she break it off? “He had a small one,” she admitted. “I just couldn’t, the sex was bad!” Some might lament the superficiality of her choice, but I always prefer to remain just as happy with a man in bed as I am bonding with him over his quirky obsession with Peter Pan.
The good news for all the small guys out there is…I have met those who do think good things come in small packages. And I’ve also heard of women who lament over it being too big (all those ‘proud’ men, take note!). So, I supposed I’ve stumbled upon a woman’s greatest gamble. Short of making peepholes in men’s pant crotches a fad (um, awkward), I suppose we will have to live with this strange women/men inequality that is still going on.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Do you think she’s being too superficial? Have you ever judged a guy on size? Does it matter to you or do you usually make the most of whatever, er, surprise package life hands you? Is it unfair that guys can see some of our goodies before we can glance at theirs? Do you wish you could judge beforehand? Have you ever dumped a guy because of his size? We won’t tell. Men can’t be members (where’s your head at…?) on this site.
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Post a CommentThe way I see it is if we can judge men so quickly and harshly based on this singular dimension of their anatomy, then to be fair they too can judge us based on the width, depth and shape of OUR anatomy, if you get my drift. Let’s just be equal-opportunity “organ-ists,” while we’re having at it, and not hypocritical ones, just some food for though, peace & love~
anyone who says size doesnt matter is experiencing any of the following or some variation period: has never had any, hasnt had any in a VERY LONG TIME or is getting their jollies in another “way”….. to be even more blunt i am all for chemistry but if i dont get off its a problem especially sine 99.9% of men do….
It does not matter about the size. It has to do with the chemistry you have with the guy.
I think she is very true i had to once break a friendship because of the one time sleeping together he was itsybitsy never ever again
it kinda does matter and it kind of don’t
Yes, size ABSOLUTELY matters!
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hhahaha i totally cracked up from reading this article
Its not the size of the ship that counts, its the motion of the ocean!
yes size does matter.
If he can put in work, size won’t matter. He has to know what he’s doing.
Size does matter to me. It’s not the only thing, but it is an important thing.
Depending on how you like being pleased, size can matter. It matters to me, but skill needs to come along with that. Size alone isn’t going to do anything. Regardless of the size, a man needs to care about pleasing his partner. If a woman is interested in determining the size before she hit the sheets, she can find a way.
hell to the yeah!!!!!!!!!!!
Well, I’ve dated a guy who was..how should i put this..not so big. I dealt with it becoz I loved him at the time. Then an incident happened when he got really angry one night when drunk and he grabbed my wrists and threw me down on the floor in front of all my friends. SOOOO not cool. I obviously deaded that relationship.
Case in point, size does matter if you want to have a fling with someone, and it doesnt matter if you are in love with the guy you are with. I feel that the sensuality is what turns me on.
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Once upon a time, I was dating a friend of mutual friends. He was a genuinely great guy. Had his own business, drove a Mercedes fully loaded with the works. He was funny, outgoing, outspoken, a great kisser… the family liked him. I liked his family… but we were taking it slow. A couple weeks into it, we planned a trip with a bunch of friends up to Orlando and that was basically where we were going to consummate the thing. When we got there, he rented a beautiful suite and suddenly, it went TERRIBLY WRONG!!!!!
To my absolute horror, I discovered a rock solid baby carrot beneath the jacuzzi bubbles. I almost threw up in his mouth. Literally! …and I was STUCK IN ORLANDO!!!!!!!!!!
I swiftly put on my actor’s mask and played the role that I still wasn’t over my ex… (which I totally WAS but how can you tell someone that they have a penis equivalent to a four year old’s?!) I cried, sobbing that I knew my ex wasn’t doing the same thing and that I just couldn’t bring myself to get intimate.
I immediately went to my girl’s room and called my mom. She sympathized, giving me the life line phone call 20 minutes later that there was an emergency at home.
We drove back to Miami in silence and I dropped him at home to pick up his car since we had taken my truck (Thank GOD!).
I don’t care WHAT you do for me or how much money you have – I am not a whore. I couldn’t have possibly subjected myself to that, even once.
Moral of the story: Size absolutely DOES matter. I don’t need a total anaconda to make me happy but I have standards and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Every woman should respect herself enough to know the difference between bending the rules and selling themselves short! If you like teenie peenies – we’re still friends on myspace! hahaha
LOL, your story had me cracking up!!! I’m sorry you went through this. I was dating someone for 3 1/2 years who had a tiny one and it was tough. I’ve since learned and am now happily married to someone else!
size matters to me… not being superficial but thats an important part in my relationship and I would like to be pleased!
We all judge at first. But to me size doesn’t matter. Whateva works for you is what really matters.
I think that size does matter, but also too much a good thing could also work against you.
no size doesn’t matter but i just hope that if your bottom is not working that your top can do a hell of a job!!!!!!really all im saying is you have to use what you got to get what you want.