Do You Want Sex More Than Your Guy?
Guys are supposed to think about sex like what, every second of every day? If that’s true, then why does it seem like there are so many women who want their fix of makin’ love more than their male counterparts? One Staffer laments and tells us how she solved her gettin’ frisky woes, but we’d love to hear your advice on this touchy topic (we won’t tell your flings/boyfriends/hubsands!).
“I can’t tell you how many times I have heard the expression, ‘men are only after one thing.’ Enough times, in fact, that I spent most of my high school years mistrusting guys, sure their compliments were just thinly-veiled attempts to get in my pants. Nowadays, I’m well aware that men can be interested in a woman for more than just a roll in the hay, but somehow that old saying must have stuck in my head, because I still expect the guys I date to have sex-on-the-brain 24/7. So when my boyfriend of over a year and a half stopped initiating, I thought something must be terribly wrong.
At first I was convinced it was me…I wasn’t sexy enough, dressing sexy enough, acting sexy enough, good at sex, etc. Of course, this only made me more insecure…word to the wise: don’t purchase $150 lingerie unless you can really sell the look. My confidence shattered, I decided to confront my boyfriend…second word to the wise: men are very sensitive when discussing their sexual prowess. Needless to say, I attempted to troubleshoot our time between the sheets in every way possible until I basically extinguished the last lingering flame of romance from our relationship.
Fortunately, men aren’t only after one thing, and my boyfriend and I were able to reconnect over everything else that made us start dating in the first place. Eventually, the sex followed, and believe me, it’s so much better when you don’t force it.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Have you ever had a sex lull with your guy? How did you fix it? Is it still going on? Do you feel like women want sex more than men nowadays? Why do you think that is?
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Post a CommentMy fella is younger than me and hates when I want sex more regular. But I love sex with him and he really turns me on. Am I being selfish asking for it too often as he says
I think women want sex more than men do but we just know how to hide it more i think. MY bf is 10 years older than me and ometimes he is just not in the mood but when i ask why he just says he has way too many things on his mind and he cant seem to get in that state of mind…makes it difficult caue i feel as though i cant help much.
My SO and I have together for quite some time. I always want it much more than he does. I have found that if I press him for it he gets very uptight and sometimes angry. Of course I can dress in something that he really likes but even that doesnt always work. Theres a signet pinky ring I wear on occasion that he really likes, he says it turns him on. When Im really in the mood I put on before we get into bed and its amazing. Theres no talking no asking it just happens. All it take is my little pinky ring.
Women in their late thirties and early forties want it all the time but men in that age range can’t handle that.
Sometimes we women can turn our men off on an intellectual level without even realizing it. My guy and I have really good communication, so this is something he’s brought to my attention. Albeit, he’s not a saint in the least – but he stresses a lot less than I do. When I overly stress, I tend to become much less of an attractive person overall… so I can’t blame him for not always wanting to tear my clothes off. Realizing that truth is helping me bloom into a better person. A healthier person too, I might add!
I agree. Don’t force it.
*And NIX the STRESS!*
That’s an Idea I had from my childhood too, my mom’s first advice to me when I got married was that I had to always be available for my husband if I did not want him to go looking for it somewhere else. When I first got married my husband worked A LOT and we always fought because i was waiting for him at home willing and anxious to get in bed, most of the time he would agree but at times he would say no or ask why i wanted soo much. At first I thought maybe he did not like me anymore or something was wrong, but with time I began to understand that there is more to a relationship than sex and that his idea of a happy marriage had nothing to do with sex.. now i realize i am very lucky to have such a great man with me who see’s me for much more than the woman he can take to bed any time he wishes, now that we both work I understand how sometimes work gets you too tired and coming home to sleep and cuddle is also a great way to pass the night…..and the sex is way better when its not given to you 7 days a week
I always did……and he was 10 yrs younger than me!
I’m in charge in the bedroom but he lets me have my way……he don’t have a choice
He definitely wants it more than me. Day and Night!
She didn’t really say in much detail how they fixed their relationship. Need more better writing please.
sometimes
it varies with me…if its good then I want it more often
I agree….Thats kinda how it is for me too…the more I get the more I want….
I thought I was the only one who wanted it all the TIME….My BF says I has I have a problem but he can’t resist me!!! LOL
I think its equal but women def seem too be more active in the 30s
I beleive women tend to think and act it out more in their mid 30′s to early 40′s more often. I for 1 want it from my bf and now he wants too and he excited to try new things!
I can’t get enough. I probably think about it more than the average guy.
i think i think about sex wayy more time then my bf or my guy friends. its always on my mind just wish he felt the same
YES, INDEED U THINK THAT IT’S ALWAYS THE MEN, IN MY OPINION I THINK WE AS WOMEN THINK ABOUT IT TWICE AS MUCH OR EQUALLY, HUMM,U THINK THAT’S SOMETHING ,THIS IS NO MYTH, FOR THOSE OF US WHO REACH THEIR 40′S HOW ABOUT YOUR CONSIDERED TO BE IN YOUR PEAK, U WANT IT MORE THAN EVER, SO TRY GETTING IT FROM UR MAN ON A FREQUENT BASIS, MY ENERGY, AND HORMONE LEVELS AT THIS TIME IS AT IT’S HEIGHT, AND I’M LOVING IT!!! I FEEL GREAT, AND INVIGORATED EACH AND EVERY TIME, MY MAN AND I JUST HAD THIS CONVERSATION RECENTLY, AND I SHARED WITH HIM THAT I WANT IT JUST AS MUCH AS HE DOES!!!I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE THE ONE TO EVER SAY THIS, I JUST HAD TO PUT IT ON OUT THERE, HAPPY INTAMACY LADIES!!!
yes we do think about it way more then men in every detail both emotional and physical …
maybe