Guys are supposed to think about sex like what, every second of every day? If that’s true, then why does it seem like there are so many women who want their fix of makin’ love more than their male counterparts? One Staffer laments and tells us how she solved her gettin’ frisky woes, but we’d love to hear your advice on this touchy topic (we won’t tell your flings/boyfriends/hubsands!).
“I can’t tell you how many times I have heard the expression, ‘men are only after one thing.’ Enough times, in fact, that I spent most of my high school years mistrusting guys, sure their compliments were just thinly-veiled attempts to get in my pants. Nowadays, I’m well aware that men can be interested in a woman for more than just a roll in the hay, but somehow that old saying must have stuck in my head, because I still expect the guys I date to have sex-on-the-brain 24/7. So when my boyfriend of over a year and a half stopped initiating, I thought something must be terribly wrong.
At first I was convinced it was me…I wasn’t sexy enough, dressing sexy enough, acting sexy enough, good at sex, etc. Of course, this only made me more insecure…word to the wise: don’t purchase $150 lingerie unless you can really sell the look. My confidence shattered, I decided to confront my boyfriend…second word to the wise: men are very sensitive when discussing their sexual prowess. Needless to say, I attempted to troubleshoot our time between the sheets in every way possible until I basically extinguished the last lingering flame of romance from our relationship.
Fortunately, men aren’t only after one thing, and my boyfriend and I were able to reconnect over everything else that made us start dating in the first place. Eventually, the sex followed, and believe me, it’s so much better when you don’t force it.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Have you ever had a sex lull with your guy? How did you fix it? Is it still going on? Do you feel like women want sex more than men nowadays? Why do you think that is?