Marriage is always a gamble—whether you’ve been dating for a month, a year or a decade, no one is ever really sure what will happen once the glass is stepped on, the rice is thrown and the bouquet is launched.
Some aspects of the institution of marriage will never change (poofy white dresses!), but more women are weary of the leap they are about to take—instead of gearing up and taking necessary precautions (couple’s therapy, pre-nups), they’re putting marriage off till they’re older.
We took to our office and asked the all too familiar question, the one that your Great Aunt Betty has asked 55 too many times: “Why aren’t you married yet? A nice, pretty, smart girl like you—what are you waiting for?” Here’s what some of our very, merry un-married Shecky’s Staffers have to say about waiting to ring those bells.
“It’s important to know you can handle different scenarios and your relationship can outlast the difficulties that come with being together all the time, as well as apart.”
“I always say I want to be the best version of myself before I can really appreciate someone else.”
“I used to set goals like, ‘I have to be married by the time I’m 26,’ but since that’s come and gone, I’d rather just say, ‘I’d like to be married by the time I’m ready.’”
“I don’t think my current lifestyle (tequila shots and late night pizza, anyone?), or financial situation (living off popcorn to make rent due to aforementioned weekend jaunts) is conducive to something as serious as holy matrimony.”
“I definitely want to eventually get married/have kids, but have no interest in putting a timeline on myself.”
“I want to be secure in who I am before I spend the rest of my life with someone.”
“I don’t think there’s a particular age to do so, but personally I’d like to have my life together before I can start and enjoy a new one with someone else.”
GIRL TALK TIME: Are you married yet? How old were you when you tied the knot? Why did you get married at that time? Not ready to say “I do” anytime soon? Why? What are you waiting for? Do you feel like it’s for better or for worse that more women are waiting to get married today?