We already shared an awkward story about meeting the parents for the first time. Yeah, your dad may have a thing or two to say to your new suitor (“What are you doing later?” -BF “Oh, just cleaning my gun!” -Dad), but what about the flipside—when your boyfriend doesn’t like your family.
Check out one Shecky’s Staffer’s story and let us know what your boyfriend thinks of your whacky (oh come on, like Aunt Edna’s penchant for stilettos is normal at age 80!) family.
“When we finally meet the guy who could be the ‘one,’ we all have that same fantasy—he’ll be tossing the football around with our brothers, chatting stocks with our fathers and charming our mothers by helping around the house. I indulged in this dream myself, convinced my picture-perfect fam would embrace my Southern gent of a man with open arms. I was wrong.
For months I just couldn’t understand why my boyfriend felt so unwelcome (sure, they were protective, but it wasn’t like they outright ignored him…or did they?). Then I started to resent him. Sick of hearing him complain, I started to think that maybe my fam was onto something. On the flipside, I also started to question my family, taking a look at all the flaws I hadn’t seen until my boyfriend pointed them out.
For so long I tried to force a relationship between them, convinced that they would eventually bond (I loved them all so it only made sense that they’d eventually all love each other, right?), but I finally realized that the only person who was suffering in the situation was…me! Once I was able to leave things alone, to let go of the idea that everything had to be perfect, everything settled into a comfortable status quo.
There are two things I learned from this ordeal. One, my family is crazy (yours is too, don’t deny it) and no, I don’t mean in the Norman Bates sense. But every family has their own idiosyncrasies, their own ways of expressing themselves that seem perfectly normal for those in the situation, but completely…baffling to an outsider. The second lesson—it doesn’t matter what your family thinks of your boyfriend or vice versa! After all, why do you think in-laws get such a bad rep? Just because someone is right for you, doesn’t mean they are right for your family (or that your family will think they are right for you.) Would it have been nice if my happy football fantasy had come true…of course, but we can’t all be the Brady Bunch (and even that family had some trouble with the football part…).”
TELL US NOW! Does your boyfriend or husband get along with your family or is it more like a family feud? Tell us your gripes, we need some support!