First Date Horror Stories: Judgment Day-te
Where to meet men nowadays? Chances are unless your mom sets you up with a guy she adores, you probably take your chances searching for the one—we’re talking dating sites…and the other stranger-danger alternative: bars. Trying not to judge a guy she met at a bar and then went on a first date with, one Staffer found herself in quite a debacle.
“I suffer from an extreme case of the Chatty Cathys when I’m drunk. I also have a problem with remembering names (it’s not just the alcohol, I swear!). One fine Friday night, I found myself conversing with a cutie who worked at Johns Hopkins. Assuming (oops!) that he was a doctor, we talked about other important things and I never clarified what exactly he did at the hospital. I was also too embarrassed that I forgot his name, so I saved him in my phone as ‘doctor.’
I woke up with the hazy memory/assumption that I had met a Johns Hopkins doctor the night before—jackpot! So when he called (yes, he actually picked up the phone and didn’t just type me a text—how 2000/cuuuute of him!), I was stoked and I totally didn’t judge when he suggested PF Chang’s for our first date. Yeah, there were more creative and cheap places, but he probably just got out of medical school and had a ton of loans and not too much time, right?
Wrong. He never went to medical school and he was not a doctor, he just worked at Johns Hopkins. There went my dreams of being a surgeon’s wife residing in a quaint Manhattan apartment and weekending in my Hampton mansion. Suddenly the whole PF Chang’s pick seemed soooo not my scene. Was he really making a fuss about how great his $9.99 dish was? Why was he acting like the plastic prototype pre-dessert tray that the waiter showed us was the best thing ever? The night just got worse and worse and I kept judging harder as I realized how off our chemistry was—he liked the worst football team ever and was from a farm…I’m a total city type. Plus, I could not get him to say his own name. To make matters worse, he kept saying mine!
Needless to say the only time I talked to him again is when he texted and I ‘lost’ my phone so I could say ‘Who is this?’ and figure out his name (hey, I was dying to find out!)…and then I suddenly got reaaaaally busy.”
What do you think? Was she wrong or right to cut this guy loose? Is it ever okay to judge a guy on superficial stuff? Do you judge guys on the first date alone, or are you more the type to give them a second chance? And, uh, have you ever gone out with anyone whose name you didn’t know? Tell us your tales. You may inspire our next story!
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i would have probably given this guy a second chance but if you aren’t interested then don’t bother. i met a bouncer at a club and thought he was soooo cute. our first date he takes me riding on his motorcycle w/ his friends. that seemed fun, bikes aren’t my thing but it was ok. then the pack heads to a strip bar where he thinks it’s cool to take a girl on a first date. needless to say, i didn’t take his calls after that and stopped going to that bar real fast.
Maybe you’re a good person underneath but according to what you wrote you don’t show that. All you cared about is the possibility that this guy was a doctor and you would be living a lavish lifestyle. Did you care at all how he was a person and vice versa? You then categorized everything he said into him not having money. Neither I or my friends would ever go out with someone who is so overt about being a gold digger. And I’m a doctor.
this guy asked me out and i said yes. the day of the date i got a babysitter and checked to see what time the movie that we decided to see would start i called him to let him know. when he camed to pick me up he decided that we should just stay at my house and watch television. when i said no he then suggested that we go to his place because he has a ton of movies there. i said okay and followed him home in my car. i suggested that we order some food to eat. i pretend to place the order over the phone and told him that it totaled $30.00. he give me the money and when he went to his bedroom to get the dvds i left out the front door. i paid the babysitter the $30.00 for the hour.
That sounds pretty shallow
One charming fellow took me on the Home Depot on a first date…subsequent dates included trips to drugs stores and food stores…
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